Our daughter used to apologize but doesn't anymore. (Though I must say that I've felt like apologizing on her behalf when I was sitting in the bleachers and parents from the other team were there -- I was at her soccer game over the weekend and the coach from the other team said "that girl's all over the players like a cheap suit" -- I thought to myself, "she's no cheap suit, she's Donna Karan!" -- and she got two goals.) She sometimes plays against her very good friends, too, and they can separate the sport competition from their friendship. She'd play against them on a school day or Saturday, and then party with them on Saturday night. Her whole group is quite athletic, which is nice to see. But, none of us play any instruments and you definitely don't want to hear us sing!