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seagrovegirl avatar
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My boyfriend of 2 months has a birthday this month on the 29th and I would like to do somethng for him that is special. I will take him out to dinner...any thoughts on this? Also, I would like to buy him a gift or create something for him and I am lost. I have about a week, HELP.

I would rather not buy clothing or jewelry for him, I would like to do something unique and thoughtful.

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graytonbeachguy avatar
Beach Fanatic
#27
Kitchenique is having Chef McAdoo from Seagar's preparing a meal of filet, strip and bone-in ribeye tomorrow night for about $50/person. Best steaks around and he might learn some new steak-cooking tips. http://www.kitchenique.com/shop/?ca..._criteria=&rec=10&searchCat=&gonext=Next+Page

Since his birthday is on the 29th, they have a sushi class on the 28th. Teach and show you how to prepare sushi and is hands-on.

I have taken a couple of dates to cooking demos/classes. They are very fun, especially the participatory ones.

Top that off with a top-shelf bottle of Maker's Mark gift set if he is a whiskey drinker.

(If he's not a whiskey drinker, you might like a slug of it if you take SWGB's last suggestion.)
Kurt avatar
Admin
#28
Hmmmm.... two months is a nice stretch of time and you two should know each other fairly well by now. Massages are amazing, but I would assume they have already been going on? (I know that I love to give them and it would already be a weekly staple for me) Perhaps you could find out one of his unfulfilled fantasies and make it a reality for him? Give him a memory that will always be fondly remembered and associated with you! :D


Powertools, especially if your unfamiliar with what he has and likes to do, is a poor idea in my opinion...and kinda unpersonal.

Professional Massage :D
jodiFL avatar
Beach Fanatic
#29
bluz/jazz dinner cruise on the Solaris at Baytowne on the 27th??

EDIT... kinda early so it will leave you plenty of time to "play" afterwards. hehehe

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Matt J avatar
SWGB
#30
bluz/jazz dinner cruise on the Solaris at Baytowne on the 27th??

EDIT... kinda early so it will leave you plenty of time to "play" afterwards. hehehe

I'm betting they feel very young after that cruise.
Lynnie avatar
SoWal Insider
#31
SGG, from reading your posts, I have a feeling he'll be happy with anything you give him.
Whatever you decide, please let us know.....BTW, is he on sowal.com?
DavidD avatar
Beach Fanatic
#32
After only 2 months, a special dinner is nice. And a small gift is nice also. I think that it's the thought that counts with an early relationship. Make it personal but keep it light. I actually think that a massage may be too personal on some level. Part of it depends on how personal and how deep is the relationship already. The photo album is nice, it also implies a long relationship - which could be good if that's where you want to go. Look to his personal interests. Its always nice to show that you've looked a little deeper into the person than most people know. I like the fishing trip if he likes to fish - this could score big points with his friends. Unless power tools are a hobby, I'd avoid them.
Oh, one last note - I also believe that a gift should reflect the giver, something that might make him think of you, some part of yourself. Round it out with a little humor and you should be all set.
Good luck. Anyone would appreciate all of the thought that you're putting into it.
seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#33
Even if he doesn't fish being out on the boat is relaxing...he can't work while on the boat..;-) But you can never go wrong with a massage, especially for someone that works all the time. Canuck also love hand massages. The photo idea is good but maybe give it a little more time, maybe Christmas???Good luck and let us know how it goes.

I've got a boat and give a killer massage, possibilities,,, thank you Franny.

Anal.
No reply........Don't kiss and tell, remember????

Kitchenique is having Chef McAdoo from Seagar's preparing a meal of filet, strip and bone-in ribeye tomorrow night for about $50/person. Best steaks around and he might learn some new steak-cooking tips. http://www.kitchenique.com/shop/?ca..._criteria=&rec=10&searchCat=&gonext=Next+Page

Since his birthday is on the 29th, they have a sushi class on the 28th. Teach and show you how to prepare sushi and is hands-on.

I have taken a couple of dates to cooking demos/classes. They are very fun, especially the participatory ones.

Top that off with a top-shelf bottle of Maker's Mark gift set if he is a whiskey drinker.

(If he's not a whiskey drinker, you might like a slug of it if you take SWGB's last suggestion.)

No, slug SWGB instead, even though I love him.....

Professional Massage :D

That would be from me. Definite possibility.

bluz/jazz dinner cruise on the Solaris at Baytowne on the 27th??

EDIT... kinda early so it will leave you plenty of time to "play" afterwards. hehehe

Thank you jodiFL...really nice suggestion.

SGG, from reading your posts, I have a feeling he'll be happy with anything you give him.
Whatever you decide, please let us know.....BTW, is he on sowal.com?

No, he isn't a Sowaller.....yet. If someone tells him about the "stood up thread", he probably will be....SHHHHH


After only 2 months, a special dinner is nice. And a small gift is nice also. I think that it's the thought that counts with an early relationship. Make it personal but keep it light. I actually think that a massage may be too personal on some level. Part of it depends on how personal and how deep is the relationship already. The photo album is nice, it also implies a long relationship - which could be good if that's where you want to go. Look to his personal interests. Its always nice to show that you've looked a little deeper into the person than most people know. I like the fishing trip if he likes to fish - this could score big points with his friends. Unless power tools are a hobby, I'd avoid them.
Oh, one last note - I also believe that a gift should reflect the giver, something that might make him think of you, some part of yourself. Round it out with a little humor and you should be all set.
Good luck. Anyone would appreciate all of the thought that you're putting into it.


David D... you are right ON.....that is what I want to do. Something special with a little of me in the mix, that can/will be memorable.

What would you suggest???
ShallowsNole avatar
Beach Fanatic
#34
SGG - I certainly can't say I know him better than you do! I have bumped into him a few times throughout the years, but that's about it. Now I can't help but wonder where he was when I was single (and skinny). Under our noses all the time! :razz: I am so happy for you! :clap:

I like the fishing charter idea. Do you know if he likes football and if he likes Florida State? I know you are not a big football fan, but FSU plays at home this weekend and finding tickets won't be hard. (If that's a possibility, we can discuss further. Fuzz and I are going.) Massages are great - but I would give the gift of his and her professional massages. You can always supplement it later! :cool: Let's see...putt-putt golf, followed by the Lady Anderson dinner cruise? You'd have to make reservations (for the cruise, not the putt-putt).

If I think of more, I'll post...but whatever it is, he will enjoy it. Tell blue eyes hello for me!
seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#35
SGG - I certainly can't say I know him better than you do! I have bumped into him a few times throughout the years, but that's about it. Now I can't help but wonder where he was when I was single (and skinny). Under our noses all the time! :razz: I am so happy for you! :clap:

I like the fishing charter idea. Do you know if he likes football and if he likes Florida State? I know you are not a big football fan, but FSU plays at home this weekend and finding tickets won't be hard. (If that's a possibility, we can discuss further. Fuzz and I are going.) Massages are great - but I would give the gift of his and her professional massages. You can always supplement it later! :cool: Let's see...putt-putt golf, followed by the Lady Anderson dinner cruise? You'd have to make reservations (for the cruise, not the putt-putt).

If I think of more, I'll post...but whatever it is, he will enjoy it. Tell blue eyes hello for me!

I thought you would know him a bit from high school since I left and went back to FWBHS. He was a cutie in HS, but I wasn't into jocks and we were both super shy. He was military SN, and gone a lot. He's been home a few years and you saw him at work on occassion, so assumed you had some scoop.

He doesn't watch football around me, and I have offered the remote and suggested he watch whatever he wanted. No football. He hasn't taken time for himself and I hope I can encourage him to change that. He deserves it!!

Think small, thoughtful gift. Whatever that may be. Dinner and whatever follows.

He for sure has some amazing blue eyes...:wub:

Putt-putt??? Never would have thought of that...LOL.
ShallowsNole avatar
Beach Fanatic
#36
I thought you would know him a bit from high school since I left and went back to FWBHS. He was a cutie in HS, but I wasn't into jocks and we were both super shy. He was military SN, and gone a lot. He's been home a few years and you saw him at work on occassion, so assumed you had some scoop.

He doesn't watch football around me, and I have offered the remote and suggested he watch whatever he wanted. No football. He hasn't taken time for himself and I hope I can encourage him to change that. He deserves it!!

Think small, thoughtful gift. Whatever that may be. Dinner and whatever follows.

He for sure has some amazing blue eyes...:wub:


Putt-putt??? Never would have thought of that...LOL.

Ipod was a good suggestion. A starter photo album is good as well. Maybe a small digital photo frame?

A heartfelt note from you, as to what it means to have him in your life. (That may be more appropriate down the road, though.)

I'll keep thinking. I'm not good with small. :wave: But I do like putt-putt. :D
DavidD avatar
Beach Fanatic
#37
Seagrovegirl,
Do you have any common interests? Is there any of his interests that you can see yourself participating in? Something that you can put your own twist on? I'm afraid that since I don't know either of you, its hard to be anything but vague for such a personal thing.

You mentioned that he mostly worked, took care of his family and played with you on the weekends (and that you didn't think that he had any hobbies that you knew of). It sounds like his values and pleasures are simple and pure. I wouldn't stress yourself out unnecessarily. The iPod is a nice idea since he likes music. Maybe just try to make his play time special - a special place or time somehow. Keep things simple.
seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#38
Seagrovegirl,
Do you have any common interests? Is there any of his interests that you can see yourself participating in? Something that you can put your own twist on? I'm afraid that since I don't know either of you, its hard to be anything but vague for such a personal thing.

You mentioned that he mostly worked, took care of his family and played with you on the weekends (and that you didn't think that he had any hobbies that you knew of). It sounds like his values and pleasures are simple and pure. I wouldn't stress yourself out unnecessarily. The iPod is a nice idea since he likes music. Maybe just try to make his play time special - a special place or time somehow. Keep things simple.

DavidD, you hit it on the head again.....simple and sweet. I can do that.
Matt J avatar
SWGB
#39
Get him a housekeeper for the day, I don't know anyone that would pass that up.
seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#40
I took the birthday boy to the Red Bar, we had dinner on the outside deck and the weather was perfect. People we didn't even know were buying him drinks, lots of them!! I made him a home made b-day card which I made personal and sweet, made him brownies with ice cream, chocolate sauce and whipped cream. We bar hopped and came home and danced! We had lots of fun and he felt special on his special day. Perfect!!
picky
#41
I took the birthday boy to the Red Bar, we had dinner on the outside deck and the weather was perfect. People we didn't even know were buying him drinks, lots of them!! I made him a home made b-day card which I made personal and sweet, made him brownies with ice cream, chocolate sauce and whipped cream. We bar hopped and came home and danced! We had lots of fun and he felt special on his special day. Perfect!!

I'm glad it was a special day! You know any man born on the 29th has to be a good 'un. :clap:
seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#42
I think you are on to somethng!
SHELLY avatar
SoWal Insider
#44
I took the birthday boy to the Red Bar, we had dinner on the outside deck and the weather was perfect. People we didn't even know were buying him drinks, lots of them!! I made him a home made b-day card which I made personal and sweet, made him brownies with ice cream, chocolate sauce and whipped cream. We bar hopped and came home and danced! We had lots of fun and he felt special on his special day. Perfect!!

....:blink:...no power tools?

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seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#45
No power tools, no electronics and yes to brownies....virgin. He's got all the tools he needs, all that was missing was making him feel special for his b-day and I think I accomplished that without tools. Brownies were the tool....LOL
SHELLY avatar
SoWal Insider
#46
No power tools, no electronics and yes to brownies....virgin. He's got all the tools he needs, all that was missing was making him feel special for his b-day and I think I accomplished that without tools. Brownies were the tool....LOL

...you were right to stick with the brownies, since he's apparently not a real "tool guy." Real "tool guys" secretly harbor a man-crush on Norm Abram; and there isn't a "tool guy" on the planet who has all the tools he needs (if he says he does, he's lying).

FYI, never (NEVER!) attempt to buy a real "tool guy" a power tool as a surprise gift unless you have all the exact specifications--which will have to come from him--thereby not making it a surprise any longer, but will save him a trip back to Home Depot to return said gift and purchase the proper tool with the required horsepower.

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seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#47
You are right SHELLY, I wasn't going to get caught in that tool trap!
SHELLY avatar
SoWal Insider
#48
You are right SHELLY, I wasn't going to get caught in that tool trap!

Good choice, Grasshopper.

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cheesehead avatar
Beach Lover
#49
Good decision. Buying a man a bf power tools, would be like buying a gf a blender. Excellent choice. If it had been me, would've been very satisfying. Prefer cc cookies, tho'.
seagrovegirl avatar
Beach FanaticAuthor
#50
Thanks Cheesehead. My guy is apparantly easy to please. Chocolate chip cookies next time.
SHELLY avatar
SoWal Insider
#51
Good decision. Buying a man a bf power tools, would be like buying a gf a blender. Excellent choice. If it had been me, would've been very satisfying. Prefer cc cookies, tho'.

...actually buying a bf a power tool is like buying a gf a pair of shoes--both will go back to the store for correction.

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