To clarify - most of the streets in any local development are private. That doesn't mean you can't go on them or are unwelcome (unless you meet one of THOSE people). Local merchants/restaurants in those communities depend on customers from outside.
As long as you are behaving yourself (i.e. not speeding through a neighborhood as a shortcut) there is no valid reason for her to be telling you not to go into Seaside.
As long as you are behaving yourself (i.e. not speeding through a neighborhood as a shortcut) there is no valid reason for her to be telling you not to go into Seaside.

