I had the experience of being with families and children this weekend. One particular set of kids seemed really mean. The oldest taunted the youngest until the youngest was in tears. Is this necessary? My girls are 8 years apart, so this was not an issue in our home. As the youngest of in my family, I remember being picked on unmercifully and hated every minute of it.:bang:
Should I say something or just sit there very uncomfortable. :idontno: Typically I do not intervene,but this situation really bothers me.
iwishiwasthereiwishiwasthereBeach FanaticTennessee2,875 postsJoined View profileMessageBeach Fanatic
iwishiwasthereBeach FanaticTennessee2,875 postsJoined View profileMessageBeach Fanatic1,344 views
Replies
29
peapod1980peapod1980percyUp the hill from the Gateway Arch4,591 postsJoined View profileMessagepercy
peapod1980percyUp the hill from the Gateway Arch4,591 postsJoined View profileMessagepercyWere the parents present when this was happening between the children?
Yes! Dad just ignored them, and Mom occassionally intervened.For me, this is the qualifier--parents present, end of story. Sounds kind of cut and dried, but my feeling is if the parents are around, they are in charge, especially if only their own children are involved. Had my children somehow gotten into the fray, then I feel this is now partially in my jurisdiction, so I have a say-so. It does, indeed, sound like there are larger issues here; issues that will have to be dealt with within the family. A bystander intervening might have a very temporary result, but that's it--the proverbial BAND-AID on the bullet wound.
KyleKyleBeach Lover85 postsJoined View profileMessageBeach Lover
For me, this is the qualifier--parents present, end of story. Sounds kind of cut and dried, but my feeling is if the parents are around, they are in charge, especially if only their own children are involved. Had my children somehow gotten into the fray, then I feel this is now partially in my jurisdiction, so I have a say-so. It does, indeed, sound like there are larger issues here; issues that will have to be dealt with within the family. A bystander intervening might have a very temporary result, but that's it--the proverbial BAND-AID on the bullet wound.
That's kinda how I roll as well.
seacrestkristiseacrestkristiBeach Fanatic3,538 postsJoined View profileMessageBeach Fanatic
Who wants to listen to that sheeet all weekend? Not me. How about, "OMG, Please make it stop." That's not being very considerate of others having to listen to your friend's bickering children. Sorry, but my momma woulda just said to go outside where'd we go off and play with our own friends or kill each other one. 😀 Fresh air does a child good.
Then if you were in thier home, maybe another option, you coulda started your own bickering, in a joking way, of course, showing them how silly they sound and make them laugh hopefully. Look at someone who will go along and say,"Quit lookin' at me like that." That's always a good'un! If possible just send'em outside or in to another room where you all don't have to hear it. Tell them it's time for the adults to have some space, go out ot to your separate places, we're tired of hearing the bickering, period, not mad, just matter-of-factly.:wub: :idontno: :wub: "I love ya'll but I can't take the fighting, go outside and play. Have some fun. Check in in a little while. Sunshine and fresh air are good for you. Take your ball or jump rope or bike Go have some fun. No is not an option." 😀 :wub: These were school-age children, right? :idontno:
Then if you were in thier home, maybe another option, you coulda started your own bickering, in a joking way, of course, showing them how silly they sound and make them laugh hopefully. Look at someone who will go along and say,"Quit lookin' at me like that." That's always a good'un! If possible just send'em outside or in to another room where you all don't have to hear it. Tell them it's time for the adults to have some space, go out ot to your separate places, we're tired of hearing the bickering, period, not mad, just matter-of-factly.:wub: :idontno: :wub: "I love ya'll but I can't take the fighting, go outside and play. Have some fun. Check in in a little while. Sunshine and fresh air are good for you. Take your ball or jump rope or bike Go have some fun. No is not an option." 😀 :wub: These were school-age children, right? :idontno:
DuneAHHDuneAHHBeach FanaticPt Washington - west ;)3,072 postsJoined View profileMessageBeach Fanatic
DuneAHHBeach FanaticPt Washington - west ;)3,072 postsJoined View profileMessageBeach FanaticWho wants to listen to that sheeet all weekend? Not me. How about, "OMG, Please make it stop."
:floor: :floor: :floor:
Checking your forum account
Please wait while we verify your forum account.