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Alicia Leonard avatar
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I saw this a few weeks ago and I didn't want to post it on the Barbra Walters thread. What do you think? About it and this book, esp?
The book bothered me because I felt it inferred she wasn't beautiful without the surgery.:blink:


http://thedailymom.ivillage.com/parenting/archives/2008/04/-if-you-were-going.html
Tuck Them in With a Tale of Tummy Tucks?


If you were going to have plastic surgery, how would you talk to your kids about it?
According to Newsweek, Dr. Michael Salzhauer, a board-certified plastic surgeon in Bal Harbour, Fla, suggests that you use his picture book, "My Beautiful Mommy", out this Mother's Day.
The book, aimed at kids ages four to seven, features a perky, Barbie-like mother who explains to her child that she's getting a nose job and tummy tuck to make herself feel better and to fit back into her clothing post-pregnancy. (Apparently, the illustrations also show Mommy?s breasts getting noticeably larger, but no one talks about that.) In the end, her daughter believes that her mommy looks "even more" beautiful than before.
I agree that parents should talk to their kids if they undergo surgery. Salzhauer points out that it can be scary for a child to see a parent come home in bandages and often times, surgery can put you out of parenting commission for a few days. However, the book could also perpetuate body image issues -- kids will think their own body parts must need "fixing" too.

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NoHall avatar
hmmmm......can't remember
#2
I love how the "pre-tuck" mommy is ridiculously perfect, too. It looks to me like the doctor surgically lowered her pants, tightened her shirt, and fluffed up her bangs.

As for the doctor--does he steal steroids out of the drug closet? :blink:
Truffle Anne avatar
Beach Fanatic
#3
I love how the "pre-tuck" mommy is ridiculously perfect, too. It looks to me like the doctor surgically lowered her pants, tightened her shirt, and fluffed up her bangs.

As for the doctor--does he steal steroids out of the drug closet? :blink:

:rolling::clap: :funn: :rolling: :clap: :lol:
Mango avatar
SoWal Insider
#4
O. M. G. Is that a gun in her daughters hand? Who drew this sheet? Nohall, Dr. Steriodo was the first thing I noticed. :floor:
scooterbug44 avatar
SoWal Expert
#5
I think the book is pucking stupid! :wave:

Mommy needs a reality check, not a book to help her explain elective surgery to the kids.
hnooe avatar
Beach Fanatic
#6
I think the book is pucking stupid! :wave:

Mommy needs a reality check, not a book to help her explain elective surgery to the kids.


You're right it is..What if??.... Mommy has some psychological issues stemmimg from a poor body concept, and that is inadvertently passed onto little Suzie? Oh dear, I don't know when to stop--

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Cheering472 avatar
SoWal Insider
#7
Those pics in the link are going to give me nightmares. :shock:

As for the childrens book...is it just me or is the doctor freakishly larger than everyone else in the room? He is approaching superhero status. I like my doctors to look a bit nerdy and maybe even pale so I can pretend they care more about their patients in the hospitals than going to the gym.
Miss Kitty avatar
Meow
#8
I hope at some point in that cute little book that the Mommy tells her daughter that it was the daughter's fault her tummy needed to be tucked. :roll:
Cheering472 avatar
SoWal Insider
#9
I hope at some point in that cute little book that the Mommy tells her daughter that it was the daughter's fault her tummy needed to be tucked. :roll:

Amen:clap:
Rita avatar
margarita brocolia
#10
You're right it is..What if??.... Mommy has some psychological issues stemmimg from a poor body concept, and that is inadvertently passed onto little Suzie? Oh dear, I don't know when to stop--
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The author is likely already writing his/her next book for the kids - "My Not-Quite-So-Psycho Mommy"
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Beach Runner avatar
beats on hood
#11
You're right it is..What if??.... Mommy has some psychological issues stemmimg from a poor body concept, and that is inadvertently passed onto little Suzie? Oh dear, I don't know when to stop--
And we wonder why so many young women have eating disorders.

I asked a close family member what her children thought about her multiple cosmetic surgeries. She said they are oblivious to it. But are they?

I'd still have a face lift (especially neck) if I could afford one.:blush:
Rita avatar
margarita brocolia
#12
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I'd still have a face lift (especially neck) if I could afford one.:blush:



Here you go BR! .:biggrin:

This doesn't look too intrusive.....
Beach Runner avatar
beats on hood
#13
Here you go BR! .:biggrin:

This doesn't look too intrusive.....
LOL. Or I guess I could just wear a turtleneck year-round like one of my friends does.
TooFarTampa avatar
SoWal Insider
#14
Mommy needs a reality check, not a book to help her explain elective surgery to the kids.

Did your mommy tell you all about the reality? Because mine most certainly did not. :lol:

I'm not saying the book isn't stupid, but there are things that I wouldn't mind having fixed. (quietly though :wave:)
scooterbug44 avatar
SoWal Expert
#15
Yeah, they make a big deal about Mommy coming home w/ bandages on. Mommy couldn't have just taken a long weekend or spa vacation until she healed enough to not scare the kids?

My parents, grandparents, relatives had a variety of (non cosmetic) medical issues. I don't remember being traumatized, just told not to bump/jump on so and so and being told cautionary tales. SPF becomes much more important when there are bandages and chunks of skin missing to drive the point home!

I'm going to be stereotypical and say that the kids this book is targeted at probably wouldn't notice Mommy's latest self improvements as much as if something happened to their nanny's face/body!
Matt J avatar
SWGB
#16
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The author is likely already writing his/her next book for the kids - "My Not-Quite-So-Psycho Mommy"
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It's a whole series.

Mommy takes pills to act like your mommy
My new mommy could be my new sister
Mommy's grouchy, everyone else calls it sober
scooterbug44 avatar
SoWal Expert
#17
Mommy's grouchy, everyone else calls it sober

Or hungover! :rofl:
Matt J avatar
SWGB
#18
Or hungover! :rofl:

Different book, "Mommy's got a headache and needs her sunglasses".
NoHall avatar
hmmmm......can't remember
#19
Then there's the family classic, Mommy Is Having Fun at her 28-Day Camp Again.
Rita avatar
margarita brocolia
#20
You guys are on a roll !! .:lolabove:


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rapunzel avatar
Beach Fanatic
#21
The sad thing is that everyone is being conditioned to think of plastic surgery as normal. Plastic surgery is up 500% in the last 8 years. Yes, gateway drugs exist -- and Botox is the most effective one ever.

Sometimes, it scares me to go to Destin. I can see the procedures clear as day, but it worries me that people's eyes are getting used to it and starting to consider the trout in a wind tunnel face attractive. I wonder what will be "normal" in 20 years. If you ever have the opportunity to look at an early issue of Playboy, you'd be shocked. The women are all fat, and either flat-chested or have saggy, off-center bosoms. Of course, they are beautiful women with great bodies, but in my head I'm used to women who are super skinny and only have curves that have been implanted. Everyone else hides their bodies, feeling too imperfect.

I hope aging does not go the same path. Julie Christie and Susan Sarandon are beautiful, and most other actresses of their generation look like aliens.
scooterbug44 avatar
SoWal Expert
#22
It doesn't help that the vast majority of media images of women are so airbrushed and digitally changed that they don't even present a realistic picture of a supermodel w/ an already atypical body.

I love the one video Dove did of the transformation of a model for an ad, but don't have a link/the skills to post it.
Alicia Leonard avatar
SoWal InsiderAuthor
#23
A lot of you guys caught onto the idea that this book promotes "this is the new normal," which is one reason I posted this thread. We are being conditioned and this book is only adding to it.

If I had the funds there are some things I would do to improve my appearance but those would start and end at using something like dermabrasion or lasers to improve my skin texture from too many years in the sun. I can't see going through the pain of elective surgery. I like most of my lines, especially the furrow between my brow that grows from thinking too hard sometimes. I think botox would weird me out but I have no issue with others seeking treatment if that's what they want.

I just don't think kids and adults should think the surgery is the norm. Learning patience and acceptance of ones lot in the looks dept builds character and that is something we poorly lack in our society, imho.

As far as book titles....how about...."Mommy needs surgery so Daddy doesn't leave her for a trophy wife."

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Matt J avatar
SWGB
#24
It doesn't help that the vast majority of media images of women are so airbrushed and digitally changed that they don't even present a realistic picture of a supermodel w/ an already atypical body.

I love the one video Dove did of the transformation of a model for an ad, but don't have a link/the skills to post it.

You mean this one?

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hibyAJOSW8U"]YouTube - Dove - Evolution Commercial (higher quality)[/ame]

There's also this one:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7-kSZsvBY-A&feature=related"]YouTube - Dove Evolution Parody[/ame]

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