A Bridge Called Love

Beach Fanatic

Jun 22, '08 · 5:05 PM1,253

Tomorrow is the one year passing of my Dad. And some days it seems just like yesterday and not a day goes by that I do not miss him.

Truly people who have lost loved ones will tell you it will be that way, but you can't appreciate that until it happens to you. There are many things I wish I could have done different those last days; if I could relive them. Never leave anything unspoken and there are not enough days in the year to tell those that we love, I Love You. :wub:

In memory of my Dad and all Dads and loved ones of others gone before us.

BRIDGE CALLED LOVE

It takes us back to brighter years,
to happier sunlit days
and to precious moments
that will be with us always.
And these fond recollections
are treasured in the heart
to bring us always close to those
from whom we had to part.
There is a bridge of memories
from earth to Heaven above...
It keeps our dear ones near us
It's the bridge that we call love.
~~Author Unknown

Edited Jun 22, '08 · 6:17 PM

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SoWal Insider

Jun 22, '08 · 6:04 PM#2

Minnie,

My dad has been gone for 10 years and I still think about him at least once a day. :wub:

Beach Fanatic

Jun 22, '08 · 6:31 PM#3

I'm so sorry for your loss Minnie and also for yours Johnrudy.

Beach Fanatic

Jun 22, '08 · 6:38 PM#4

I know this bridge very well Minnie. I lost my baby son at 4 days old, my fiancee to murder, my mother to heart and lung disease and my younger sister, who had a head on accident with a crack dealer off 331 by the "One Stop" three years ago. It was the dealer's fault....passed a big dump truck and ran right into her as she was going to visit her only daughter and little granddaughter. She lived for 5 months and then her organs shut down.

My thoughts are with you Min....Kat

Beach Fanatic

Jun 22, '08 · 6:39 PM#5

June 21was eight years that we lost our baby. I can't help wondering how different things would be today if he were here.

Edited Jun 22, '08 · 7:41 PM

beats on hood

Jun 22, '08 · 7:06 PM#6

Tomorrow is the one year passing of my Dad. And some days it seems just like yesterday and not a day goes by that I do not miss him.

So sorry, Minnie. My Daddy died 40 years ago on May 4, 1968, and I always have a tear in my eye on that date. My brother and sister were too young to remember him.

I still miss him. He was the one who encouraged me when I did well in math starting in the second grade because math was his favorite subject. I wouldn't have a Ph.D. in math if it hadn't been for that early encouragement, especially since it was fairly unusual for females to be interested in math back then.

Beach Lover

Jun 22, '08 · 7:11 PM#7

We are with you & thinking about you

Minnie, I lost my wife after 33 wonderful years together. We actually went out for six years before that. I knew she was the one for me the minute my eyes saw her. These past five years, in a lot of ways, have been a wonderful journey for me. It is very natural and OK to miss the one you love and think about how it would be. Try not to look back at the things you would like to change. Just think about the good times. I look back at my life with my wife and say every other breath I took was hers. I have a gazillion smiles and good times to remember.

So you see, you have a lot of support here and as you go through the anniversary remember the good times for I am sure there were a gazillion.

Beach FanaticAuthor

Jun 22, '08 · 8:27 PM#8

well actually I would not undo anything between Dad and I; just would do more. Call him more, hug him more, say I love you more.

The last time I talked to him was on Father's Day a year ago and then he had his heart attack/stroke that night and never spoke again.

That is the only thing I would change, I would have gone to see him Father's Day and I so wish I had a recording of his voice, as the days pass I find myself having trouble remembering it. He was a man of few words.

Thanks everyone for sharing. Sharing is good. :wub:

SoWal Insider

Jun 22, '08 · 9:14 PM#9

Thinking of you tommorow...

Beach FanaticAuthor

Jun 22, '08 · 9:36 PM#10

Thinking of you tommorow...

Always thinking of you. :wub:

Beach Lover

Jun 22, '08 · 10:02 PM#11

What a wonderful post and remberence of your Dad, Minnie! You are truly a very kind person. We lost my Dad almost two years ago July 7th, he passed of esophical (spelled incorrectly) cancer. It was a six month passing and he waited until I could get back to his bedside to pass over. He got to say all of the things he wanted to say in that time and we did too, there are some good thing to be said of cancer in that respect. Dad was a good man who still loves us.

SoWal Insider

Jun 23, '08 · 8:26 AM#12

I can't even imagine losing my Dad or my step-Dad although I know it's getting closer and closer every day that goes by. I don't know how I'll get through it, except to just go on with life and make sure my girls know everything I learned from what they taught me. I miss my family every day just being so far apart geographically.
My husband lost his Dad when he was 15. His heart still aches for his Dad...daily.

My thoughts are with you today Minnie. Take Care.

Beach FanaticAuthor

Jun 23, '08 · 11:55 AM#13

Nothing you can ever do to prepare. Just contact them as much as possible and never put it off, saying "Oh I will call them tomorrow, or next week. "

And definitely let him know how much you love, and honor him. I think my Dad always wondered, he asked my Mom about a month before he passed away, did she think we (my brothers and I) were proud of him.

Never ever would I have thought he had any doubts.

One of my Dad's favorite types of music was anything Scottish, which is why I chose to play "Going Home" as my selection during his service.

One of the most moving moments in the movie Sex and the City is the version they play of Auld Lang Syne. If you have not heard it or seen the move here it is. Very, very moving.

[nomedia]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1OspahAAHdo[/nomedia]

Edited Jun 23, '08 · 12:02 PM

Beach Fanatic

Jun 23, '08 · 12:08 PM#14

Thinking of you today (((((((Minnie))))))....love you. Take it easy, or have some fun, stay in bed and sleep or read, go shopping, light a candle, have lunch with a friend or whatever makes you feel close to your Dad. Only you know what it is.

Remember he is closer to you today then he ever has been....just reach out to him and tell him how much you miss him and love him and feel the warmth of peace flow over you.

Or, if it makes you feel better, open a window lean out and scream, "I'M MAD AS H*ELL AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE!" I've done this a number of times!!!

Kat