this personal experience with you all because hopefully it will help keep someone else who may consider ever doing it, to not. kurt if you need to delete then feel free.
as some of you may have noticed by my postings they may have been a little off the wall, or not emotionally sound. well, truth be known i have been involved in an online affair with someone for over a year and a half that used to post on this board under his real name and now uses multiple aliases. i have never been in any type of affair in my life and i have learned so much. from my experience it has been the hardest, most stressful situation i've ever been through. i've experienced every emotion that a real life relationship would consist of and more. you love, you hurt, you suffer. online affairs are real, i just wanted to share this with you because i don't want anyone to ever go through what i've been through. EVER. if you are ever in that position try to remember this thread and think to yourself it's not worth it. i'm definitely not saying that you can't be friends, but just please be careful. i wasn't and it's caused tremendous heartache for myself and mr. aggieb.
you all have been fun "getting to know" but i am leaving the board and probably the cyber world until i'm ready to return. i have to focus on my real life now and live the life i'm supposed to be living.
take care all of you,
aggieb
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I wish you the very best Aggie, hugs to you and prayers too for healing. 
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Aggieb! You are very sweet, intelligent and charming. Your thread/post speaks much greater volumes than the action; you are showing courage and strength without exposing the other person! I wish you and mr. aggieb speedy healing!
Lots of love and call/email me anytime!!
XOXOXO
Lots of love and call/email me anytime!!
XOXOXO
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I've been thinking about you all morning. It could happen to any of us.
hugs to you.
hugs to you.
SoWal Guide
we can all take a lesson from you aggieb. living your real (offline) life is the ony important thing to do. sometimes we need to step away from the internet or other distractions and try to remember that part. sometimes we need to share our mistakes in order to move forward, and also to try to help someone else in a similar situation. Thank you sharing, trusting your buds and helping.
know that you are a good friend to many and a good person who has made a difference here, and I have no doubt you make a really big difference in "real" life as well. so live, learn, forgive yourself and others, love and laugh. you will be just fine.
be well!
know that you are a good friend to many and a good person who has made a difference here, and I have no doubt you make a really big difference in "real" life as well. so live, learn, forgive yourself and others, love and laugh. you will be just fine.
be well!
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Holy guacamole! 
You are very brave for sharing and I hope you and Mr. aggieb can work through this.
We will miss you, but totally understand why you are leaving.
You are very brave for sharing and I hope you and Mr. aggieb can work through this.
We will miss you, but totally understand why you are leaving.
SoWal Insider
Love you Aggieb. Can't wait til you come back! You've got my digits, girl...call me sometime
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Ditto on all the post above, AggieB. Look me up if you need to . You are one of my fave people on this board. I'll miss you and hope to see you soon.
Beach Fanatic
Good luck, God Bless and keep smiling!!
Beach Fanatic
There are many ways to go through life.....and people often wonder what their purpose is. I believe that sharing is one of the truest purposes....especially when it comes from a humble heart The act of sharing helps so many others.
Peace to you as you heal and grow stronger.
With Love Kat
Peace to you as you heal and grow stronger.
With Love Kat
Meow
I'll miss you around here, aggieb, but what a blessing it was to read this and know you are on your way to a new start. Happy New Year and Happy New Life! XOX
This is another reminder that message boards, for all the good they can do, are not always the sweet safe place you might imagine and not everyone is who they try to come across as under the veil of a screen name and avatar. I had an unprovoked experience on here with a poster awhile back that was very disturbing and almost caused me to abandon sowal.com.
This is another reminder that message boards, for all the good they can do, are not always the sweet safe place you might imagine and not everyone is who they try to come across as under the veil of a screen name and avatar. I had an unprovoked experience on here with a poster awhile back that was very disturbing and almost caused me to abandon sowal.com.
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sharing this shows that we are all very much alike in so many ways
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Not to make light of the situation but I have an online affair with all of y'all every day. Sometimes you rub me the wrong way and hurt my feelings and sometimes you thrill me.
Just like in real life I have to be able to handle my own self and my own business (not always easy). The internet is not like TV. It is real life. People are no different online than they are off just because you can't see them. That doesn't mean they can't be tricky, or real or fake, or schmucks or heroes. When it comes down to it, the internet is just a fancy phone. Before phones it was pen and paper.
I appreciate sharing. It is human. It began with cave paintings, and here we are.
Just like in real life I have to be able to handle my own self and my own business (not always easy). The internet is not like TV. It is real life. People are no different online than they are off just because you can't see them. That doesn't mean they can't be tricky, or real or fake, or schmucks or heroes. When it comes down to it, the internet is just a fancy phone. Before phones it was pen and paper.
I appreciate sharing. It is human. It began with cave paintings, and here we are.
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i am cave woman, hear me roar. rar!!
sorry, couldn't help it.
thanks for the kind words, really. but i'm not sharing for pity at all, i just wanted you all to know how serious it can be at times. how you handle your own personal situations is your own prerogative. i am fine, i promise. so easy a cave woman can do it.;-)
sorry, couldn't help it.
thanks for the kind words, really. but i'm not sharing for pity at all, i just wanted you all to know how serious it can be at times. how you handle your own personal situations is your own prerogative. i am fine, i promise. so easy a cave woman can do it.;-)
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i am cave woman, hear me roar. rar!!
sorry, couldn't help it.
thanks for the kind words, really. but i'm not sharing for pity at all, i just wanted you all to know how serious it can be at times. how you handle your own personal situations is your own prerogative. i am fine, i promise. so easy a cave woman can do it.;-)
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Best wishes on your steps forward, aggieb, and thanks for the thoughtful and heartful warning to the rest of us!
beats on hood
Take care, aggieb. I'll be sending positive vibes your way that you and your mr. will work things out.
"What are you listening to?" We're listening to you. There are good lessons to be learned from your confession.
"What are you listening to?" We're listening to you. There are good lessons to be learned from your confession.
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Take care, aggieb. I'll be sending positive vibes your way that you and your mr. will work things out.
"What are you listening to?" We're listening to you. There are good lessons to be learned from your confession.
Yeah! I always think of aggieb when I hear something new and wonder if she'd like it!
Beach Fanatic
Thanks for the reminder that it can be a slippery slope and can truly affect your REAL life! Here's hoping that 2010 brings much happiness to you and Mr. AggieB!
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we can all take a lesson from you aggieb. living your real (offline) life is the ony important thing to do. sometimes we need to step away from the internet or other distractions and try to remember that part. sometimes we need to share our mistakes in order to move forward, and also to try to help someone else in a similar situation. Thank you sharing, trusting your buds and helping.Could not say it better myself....
know that you are a good friend to many and a good person who has made a difference here, and I have no doubt you make a really big difference in "real" life as well. so live, learn, forgive yourself and others, love and laugh. you will be just fine.
be well!
May all your needs be met within and without through much contemplation, conversation and honesty.
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