one year ago today

[Beachbummette]

Well then, BB, you had better be a light sleeper and quick on your feet, because I can tell you with 100% certainty that at one point in her teenage years, that girl is going to be sneaking out past hours. Even if it's only on the front porch or driveway. Don't say that you never did it! I was a goody-goody kid and I did it...lots of times. And my own goody-goody daughter is upholding the tradition (not that we're planning on letting it become a 'tradition').

Nope, I didn't sneak out of the house as a teenager.

 

[Ocean Lover]

No, but I was one! I also have a 15 (soon to be 16) year old step daughter...and can say that won't happen with her either.

I was going to ask the same thing...I had a curfew of midnight. My kids will also have curfews.

 

[Mermaid]

Nope, I didn't sneak out of the house as a teenager.

Well then, there's no hope for you.

 

[Teresa]

Nope, my parents always said there was nothing I needed to be doing at 2:00 a.m. except sleeping.

I can tell you from experience that your parents were right! My parents said the same thing, but I didn't listen very well...

 

[Teresa]

Ok, it's 2 in the morning, but my 17 year old daughter is standing in the driveway, talking with a 22 year old guy-friend and I'm on full not-on-my-watch alert. http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/rno/225180364.html

so what's with the craigslist story? I like it...

 

[Rudyjohn]

Well then, BB, you had better be a light sleeper and quick on your feet, because I can tell you with 100% certainty that at one point in her teenage years, that girl is going to be sneaking out past hours. Even if it's only on the front porch or driveway. Don't say that you never did it! I was a goody-goody kid and I did it...lots of times. And my own goody-goody daughter is upholding the tradition (not that we're planning on letting it become a 'tradition').

I want to echo your post, exactly. If you don't bend just a little, allow some trust, then teens will learn how to sneak out. I didn't sneak out of the house at night, but I sure knew how to sneak and withhold the truth sometimes because my parents were insanely suspiscious of everything (w/o reason).
And I might add, I'd rather my son or daughter be hanging out in my driveway at 2am or any time than somewhere else.

 

[imasunbum]

I want to echo your post, exactly. If you don't bend just a little, allow some trust, then teens will learn how to sneak out. I didn't sneak out of the house at night, but I sure knew how to sneak and withhold the truth sometimes because my parents were insanely suspiscious of everything (w/o reason).
And I might add, I'd rather my son or daughter be hanging out in my driveway at 2am or any time than somewhere else.

Amen Johnrudy!

I am inclined to think like BB that my daughter will NOT do that - but I am hearing Mango and I learned a long time ago never to say never.

I didn't sneak out of my house either (my mother....hell hath no fury) but did sneak out with friends from their house.

We can raise them the best that we can give them rules and you just never know

 

[Rudyjohn]

Amen Johnrudy!

I am inclined to think like BB that my daughter will NOT do that - but I am hearing Mango and I learned a long time ago never to say never.

I didn't sneak out of my house either (my mother....hell hath no fury) but did sneak out with friends from their house.

We can raise them the best that we can give them rules and you just never know

That's what I did too, and was still sooooo scared that my mom would find out and probably kill me, or at least embarrass me to no end. And I was not sneaking out to see boys, it was just going out to hang out. But if they had just been a little more lenient and trusting, I would've respected them so much more. And yes, we have to do our job in raising them with rules but most importantly, respect.
You'd be surprised what you'll get in return.

 

[bsmart]

Nope, my parents always said there was nothing I needed to be doing at 2:00 a.m. except sleeping.

Because the only thing open after 2:00am are legs and liquour stores, right?

 

[Teresa]

Well then, BB, you had better be a light sleeper and quick on your feet, because I can tell you with 100% certainty that at one point in her teenage years, that girl is going to be sneaking out past hours. Even if it's only on the front porch or driveway. Don't say that you never did it! I was a goody-goody kid and I did it...lots of times. And my own goody-goody daughter is upholding the tradition (not that we're planning on letting it become a 'tradition').

Mermy - I'm betting your daughter doesn't have to sneak out. because you trust her and know her to make good decisions, she can just go without sneaking. this is the best possible scenario, and its all based on trust and respect on your part and hers.