Moms out there advice PLEASE!!

[DonPtrl2@cox.ne]

Moms out there any advice you can offer is much appreciated. Here's my situation my husband and I are going on vacation so I should be really excited well I have mixed feelings. We will be gone for 8 days and will not be taking the baby who is 14 months. My mother will be watching him. On one side I am really excited to have this alone time with my husband. On the other I will miss my son terribly. Has anyone gone through this same situation and if so how did you cope. I really want to have a great time and not constantly be thinking of the baby. On a side note the reason in case you are wondering why we decided not to take the baby is we will be in a different country and felt it would be better to leave him here with his Grandma.

 

[sunspotbaby]

I let my 1 year old go back to Georgia with Grandma for a week this past Summer. I thought it would be easy. I was in tears before they backed out of the driveway. However, I completely trust my Mother and Sisters and nieces and I knew it would be good for my baby girl to spend time with other family since she doesn't have any here. Just as important, it was good for them too. They had a ball with her and she was spoiled rotten for a week. I must've called 4 or 5 times a day, but I'm glad I did it...for her and for her grand-parents. Go, and have a good time.

 

[peapod1980]

Yes, I have done this, and the best thing you can do to put your mind at ease is to remind yourself that he's in the best hands possible. Also, you are doing her a favor by giving her one-on-one time with her grandson. Most importantly, though, you are investing in your relationship with your husband. A marriage needs care and feeding that doesn't involve kids. Going away without your child(ren) will get easier, trust me. ;-)

 

[DonPtrl2@cox.ne]

Its funny I have been thinking about this since we booked the trip months ago. I just know I will cry and be calling everyday. Now my husband he can't understand why I'm having such a hard time with this.

 

[steele mama]

Yes, I have done this, and the best thing you can do to put your mind at ease is to remind yourself that he's in the best hands possible. Also, you are doing her a favor by giving her one-on-one time with her grandson. Most importantly, though, you are investing in your relationship with your husband. A marriage needs care and feeding that doesn't involve kids. Going away without your child(ren) will get easier, trust me. ;-)

Words of wisdom and experience!

 

[Sheila]

My husband and I used to take Mommy and Daddy trips every couple of years or so. My in-laws were always delighted to come and stay with our children. The children were over the moon and spending the one on one time with their grandparents. The kids always told us we "looked younger" when we came home. We were rested, relaxed, and recharged and had missed the children and glad to see them when we came home. I always teared up when leaving, but glad I went. I think it's a win-win situation. Good luck and enjoy your well deserved get-away!

By the way. Now I'm the grandparent and happy to reciprocate for our daughter and son-in-law to have Mommy-Daddy time. ;-)

 

[kathydwells]

My husband and I used to take Mommy and Daddy trips every couple of years or so. My in-laws were always delighted to come and stay with our children. The children were over the moon and spending the one on one time with their grandparents. The kids always told us we "looked younger" when we came home. We were rested, relaxed, and recharged and had missed the children and glad to see them when we came home. I always teared up when leaving, but glad I went. I think it's a win-win situation. Good luck and enjoy your well deserved get-away!

By the way. Now I'm the grandparent and happy to reciprocate for our daughter and son-in-law to have Mommy-Daddy time. ;-)

What she said .....except for the grandparent part...I hope I have a few more years before that.

 

[kathydwells]

Yes, I have done this, and the best thing you can do to put your mind at ease is to remind yourself that he's in the best hands possible. Also, you are doing her a favor by giving her one-on-one time with her grandson. Most importantly, though, you are investing in your relationship with your husband. A marriage needs care and feeding that doesn't involve kids. Going away without your child(ren) will get easier, trust me. ;-)

What she said too.

 

[DonPtrl2@cox.ne]

Thank you so much everyone for the great advice.

 

[ShallowsNole]

It's OK to cry, and it's OK to call and check. Your mother will totally understand. I am sure she felt the same way about you, once upon a time. ;-)

One word of advice - please write something out giving your mother permission to approve medical care for your child, as well as the SSN and health insurance cards. SkunkApe 30A would be a good one to give pointers, such as exactly what this form is called. You might have to seek him out, though, as he's not likely to open a thread asking for moms. ;-)

You might want to check with the hospital that is closest to your mom's house to see if they have a standard form. I once had these directives filled out at every hospital around here, so that if my son was sick or injured and someone else brought him in, the hospital would not have to wait for me or my husband to show up to treat him.

THEN, go and enjoy your trip!!!