I have a group of friends from all parts of the country who keep in touch via an email loop. Every year at Christmas, we do Secret Santa gifts. This year we delayed it with a target date of New Year's. So, I'm waiting, waiting, waiting... Finally I ask for the name of my Santa and immediately know I'm screwed. The person who drew me never sent a gift to her "giftee" last year, and also last year claimed that she never received the gift that was sent to her, though the Santa Girl had proof she mailed the package. I'm irritated, she's never been called on any of this, what do I do?
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Beach Fanatic
I wouldn't put her in the draw next year. 
percyAuthor
I wouldn't put her in the draw next year.Yes, I definitely agree with that.
But I don't get to call her a liar this year?
Beach Fanatic
Well, it depends on how much you want to keep her as a "friend." :scratch:
Beach Fanatic
I have a group of friends from all parts of the country who keep in touch via an email loop. Every year at Christmas, we do Secret Santa gifts. This year we delayed it with a target date of New Year's. So, I'm waiting, waiting, waiting... Finally I ask for the name of my Santa and immediately know I'm screwed. The person who drew me never sent a gift to her "giftee" last year, and also last year claimed that she never received the gift that was sent to her, though the Santa Girl had proof she mailed the package. I'm irritated, she's never been called on any of this, what do I do?
Call it.
SoWal Guide
Yes, I definitely agree with that.
But I don't get to call her a liar this year?
definitely call her out on it, without saying "liar". I think everyone would want to know... sorry you got ripped!
percyAuthor
Um, not so much.
Call it.You and my husband said the same thing, naturally. ;-)
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Beach Fanatic
You and my husband said the same thing, naturally. ;-)[/QUOTE]
Rock stars think alike.
Rock stars think alike.
percyAuthor
definitely call her out on it, without saying "liar". I think everyone would want to know... sorry you got ripped!I know, I know, I promise I won't actually say liar.
You and my husband said the same thing, naturally. ;-)
Rock stars think alike.[/quote]
You guys are bada**es.
Beach Fanatic
I know, I know, I promise I won't actually say liar.
Not "liar", just "cheap and rude."
FunnChef - AlisonCooks.com
Call her out on it for sure! Not doing it last year...could have been forgiven (maybe there were extenuating circumstances... ) but to do it 2 years in a row....:nono1: :nono1: SHAME SHAME SHAME!!
) but to do it 2 years in a row....:nono1: :nono1: SHAME SHAME SHAME!!percyAuthor
Not "liar", just "cheap and rude."Ill-mannered, poorly raised, conscience-lacking.
SoWal Guide
Not "liar", just "cheap and rude."
:clap_1: agreed.
percyAuthor
Call her out on it for sure! Not doing it last year...could have been forgiven (maybe there were extenuating circumstances...
:clap_1: agreed.Keep talking, gulls, this is almost as good as my complaining-about-the-kids thread!
SoWal Guide
okay, can you let us know what you say to your "group" and how they respond, and if she responds?
FunnChef - AlisonCooks.com
okay, can you let us know what you say to your "group" and how they respond, and if she responds?Yes, I would like to know also!
percyAuthor
okay, can you let us know what you say to your "group" and how they respond, and if she responds?You got it! They tend to be a fairly non-confrontational bunch, so they'll all probably tinkle themselves over it, and she's a drama queen, so she'll probably milk it for all it's worth and try to elicit sympathy.
Meow
Just slap the sh*t out of her and tell her..."that's from Miss Kitty." 
I can't stand people like this. 
I can't stand people like this. SoWal Guide
Just slap the sh*t out of her and tell her..."that's from Miss Kitty."
what she said.
and if she tries to give you any lip, tell her to STFU.
Beach Fanatic
what she said.
and if she tries to give you any lip, tell her to STFU.
and then say, "KMA!"
This group of your friends is, quite obviously, more confrontational than your St. Louis group. But we HAVE to be more funn, right?
Meow
what she said.
and if she tries to give you any lip, tell her to STFU.
Brilliant...and add a Bite Me to the mix.
and then say, "KMA!"
This group of your friends is, quite obviously, more confrontational than your St. Louis group. But we HAVE to be more funn, right?
You know that's right! :clap_1:
SoWal Insider
Mail her a lump of $hit with a note that says "Thanks, I already got $hit from you. How nice of you to send more, but I have enough" 
Beach Fanatic
Mail her a really nice note and thank her for the Ipod she gave you. You'll get the message across and she just won't know what to do with that. It might get kind of humorous amongst the group.
Beach Fanatic
Mail her a really nice note and thank her for the Ipod she gave you. You'll get the message across and she just won't know what to do with that. It might get kind of humorous amongst the group.
This I like. :clap_1:
Beach Fanatic
WWSM do? Write or call her, tell her you realize she did not send a gift again this year. Explain that you were very disappointed and ask her not to put her name in next year so that someone else is not disappointed. Then you can ask her what's going on and make sure she is ok. Am I lame?
PS My avatar looks like steeleing1.
Am I lame?PS My avatar looks like steeleing1.
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SoWal Guide
WWSM do? Write or call her, tell her you realize she did not send a gift again this year. Explain that you were very disappointed and ask her not to put her name in next year so that someone else is not disappointed. Then you can ask her what's going on and make sure she is ok.
PS My avatar looks like steeleing1.
SM - you certainly make the most sense. I wouldn't have the nerve to call her though... I don't think I would be able to keep it "nice", so I just wouldn't.
I like this idea though. percy?
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