Need some input/advice/wisdom

Mail her a really nice note and thank her for the Ipod she gave you. You'll get the message across and she just won't know what to do with that. It might get kind of humorous amongst the group.

WWSM do? Write or call her, tell her you realize she did not send a gift again this year. Explain that you were very disappointed and ask her not to put her name in next year so that someone else is not disappointed. Then you can ask her what's going on and make sure she is ok. Am I lame?
PS My avatar looks like steeleing1.

WWSM do? Write or call her, tell her you realize she did not send a gift again this year. Explain that you were very disappointed and ask her not to put her name in next year so that someone else is not disappointed. Then you can ask her what's going on and make sure she is ok. Am I lame?
PS My avatar looks like steeleing1.

SM - you certainly make the most sense. I wouldn't have the nerve to call her though... I don't think I would be able to keep it "nice", so I just wouldn't.

I like this idea though. percy?

Dangit, SM, you had to go and ruin all the funn, didn't you?! You're right, this is probably the best approach--deal with the issue in a sensible way with a dose of (faux ;-)) concern. Not lame, just diplomatic.

Somthing just doesn't seem right about getting angry or even over a Christ-mas present. Truthfully....I probably would'nt do what I said. I would do NOTHING. I'm pretty good at ignoring even when I shouldn't.

Kill her with kindness.

Somthing just doesn't seem right about getting angry or even over a Christ-mas present. Truthfully....I probably would'nt do what I said. I would do NOTHING. I'm pretty good at ignoring even when I shouldn't.

you are so right. it's not worth it. I would do nothing too. but I would let my friends in the email loop know what happened just so they could do something different next year (like ask her not to participate).

you are so right. it's not worth it. I would do nothing too. but I would let my friends in the email loop know what happened just so they could do something different next year (like ask her not to participate).

Or how about calling her to say...

"Hey there friend, I thought you would want to know my package hasn't arrived yet from our gift exchange, and I assumed you would want to check with whatever shipping company you used to see if it was lost. I checked with everyone else in the group, and they all have already received their gift. I'd hate for you to spend all that money on a nice gift just to have it lost in the mail."

She'd get the picture, I would imagine.

Or you could just direct her to sowal.com for some reason or another, and eventually she would find your post!

I like Steele Mama's idea. You get to be the nice person, and the lady will get the hint. If she feels bad about it and sends a gift,(I know, not likely.) then great. If she doesn't feel bad, oh well. Her loss.

Life's too short to get upset over someone who flaked on a gift exchange.

Or how about calling her to say...

"Hey there friend, I thought you would want to know my package hasn't arrived yet from our gift exchange, and I assumed you would want to check with whatever shipping company you used to see if it was lost. I checked with everyone else in the group, and they all have already received their gift. I'd hate for you to spend all that money on a nice gift just to have it lost in the mail."

She'd get the picture, I would imagine.

Or you could just direct her to sowal.com for some reason or another, and eventually she would find your post!

Don't misunderstand where I'm coming from--it's not about getting a gift, it's about asking a friend to be real. Flaking for two years in a row is really about being inconsiderate.

shoot her.

Don't misunderstand where I'm coming from--it's not about getting a gift, it's about asking a friend to be real. Flaking for two years in a row is really about being inconsiderate.

believe it or not - i liked the sending poop idea

This does not surprise me Fartblossom....:funn:

I have a group of friends from all parts of the country who keep in touch via an email loop. Every year at Christmas, we do Secret Santa gifts. This year we delayed it with a target date of New Year's. So, I'm waiting, waiting, waiting... Finally I ask for the name of my Santa and immediately know I'm screwed. The person who drew me never sent a gift to her "giftee" last year, and also last year claimed that she never received the gift that was sent to her, though the Santa Girl had proof she mailed the package. I'm irritated, she's never been called on any of this, what do I do?