Invasion of privacy?

They already have special laws & regulations about drugs on school property, so a new machine to test for it doesn't seem too far out of line. Personally, I don't stay awake at night worrying about a possible violation of drug dealer's rights on school campuses (or anywhere else for that matter).

I think particle detection is the new trendy way to find stuff. Some airports now have a machine where you are randomly selected to walk into a booth and they hit you with poufs of air (powerful enough they told me that as a female I should hold the front of my shirt down), then test that air for "bad" particulate matter. Don't think we'll see it at VPS as too many military guys go through there, but it's interesting.

I too am not awake worrying about drug dealer's rights. I was talking about school-age kids. Humongous difference there! ;-)

I too am not awake worrying about drug dealer's rights. I was talking about school-age kids. Humongous difference there! ;-)

Potatoe, patatoe. They are using the technology on people bringing drugs into a school. Exactly who do you think are the ones selling/bringing drugs to schools?

As long as our son is under 18 and living in our house, we have the right to investigate whether he is partaking of alcohol and/or drugs, and engaging in sexual activity. Particularly since he has the opportunity for all, and most of his friends do. (This is a fact.) At the same time, we have the responsibility not to "freak" on every little bit of information we hoped not to find.

Do we trust him? Yes on two counts, no on the other one.

Meanwhile, I've been honest with our son about my life as a teenager - and communicated that this is why I worry about him. Had my parents found out everything I did, I would have been devastated. But that didn't keep me from doing them. As a result, he has asked some questions and I have provided answers that made us both blush. But so far, the conversations have always ended in a hug and an "I love you."

To all: would you want YOUR private love letters read by third parties?

Bob, do you have teenagers? Years ago I only hoped that I would never have to worry about a teen pregnancy. Or drugs. Or stealing. Or cheating on an exam. But it happens in most families.

Um...:scratch:...nevermind...

let me say first that i heart you!

Bob, do you have teenagers? Years ago I only hoped that I would never have to worry about a teen pregnancy. Or drugs. Or stealing. Or cheating on an exam. But it happens in most families.

2 teenage girls....16 and 18. the 18 year old has a boyfriend, the 16 year old has several hundred hornfrogs after her, but no boyfriend, thank goodness!

let me say first that i heart you!

Well, there it is...and EVERYBODY has read it now! :funn:

Heart you right back. Thanks!

2 teenage girls....16 and 18. the 18 year old has a boyfriend, the 16 year old has several hundred hornfrogs after her, but no boyfriend, thank goodness!

Best of luck to ya!

2 teenage girls....16 and 18. the 18 year old has a boyfriend, the 16 year old has several hundred hornfrogs after her, but no boyfriend, thank goodness!

May God have mercy on your soul.

I recently got this email from an old friend:

My oldest daughter Corrie just started kindergarten, so our lives will never be the same. In case you didn't know, Amy and I are the proud parents of four girls--Corrie (5), Zoe, (3), Kylie (2), and Sophie (9 months). Life is good.

Ballet lessons. Prom dresses. PMS. Sororities. Weddings... If I ever have children, I want boys so that I can send them to military school!

Best of luck to ya!

luck is the word, because i'm not too old to remember the intoxicating fog of youth!

A couple of years ago, one of my best friends found some notes that her son's girlfriend had written to him. She read them to me over the phone...they made it pretty clear that they were intimate. I DID NOT want to be a part of that...it was truly an invasion of privacy....I always wondered why she had to share it with me.

Reading their notes or not reading them is a surface issue. (Allifunn's friend makes me mad, by the way. That's awful.)

Is it possible the friend read the notes to you looking for some advice? Maybe she didn't know what to do with the information she had uncovered. I encounter new parenting challenges every day; I'd be lost without good friends who offer advice and suggestions. Sometimes it's not even input that's needed, it's a sympathetic ear to listen to your worries.

Is it possible the friend read the notes to you looking for some advice? Maybe she didn't know what to do with the information she had uncovered. I encounter new parenting challenges every day; I'd be lost without good friends who offer advice and suggestions. Sometimes it's not even input that's needed, it's a sympathetic ear to listen to your worries.

I'm sorry...I didn't mean to be judgmental. I know that parenting must be one of the hardest jobs out there. (The other one being marriage!)

Conflict is awful. One of my best friends is a therapist, and she's forever saying, "Relationships are messy!" But it's the mess that makes or breaks it. I don't think that sex, drugs and rock & roll do nearly as much damage to a kid as a broken relationship with a parent...