Thank you note etiquette

[potatovixen]

This was brought up in another thread and I'd like to know what other people think about it.

When you send someone a nice gift, and don't receive a thank-you note (or at least acknowledgement of the gift), what do you do? Do you just let it go, or is there a tactful way to bring up the matter without making the person feel bad?

 

[Smiling JOe]

I never expect a thank you note in return for any gift. Why would you need to bring it up unless you were uncertain that the gift was delivered?

 

[potatovixen]

It's not necessarily gratitude I expect. I'd just like to know the gift got where it was headed.

 

[Smiling JOe]

It's not necessarily gratitude I expect. I'd just like to know the gift got where it was headed.

Gotcha. In that case, after enough days have passed without you hearing back, I would contact the recipient, and let them know that you were just checking to make sure they received the gift. I'm sure the number of days to wait may vary upon the occasion.

 

[Kurt]

Everything you need to know about gifting/taking/finding/trading can be learned from Dances With Wolves.

 

[Smiling JOe]

Everything you need to know about gifting/taking/finding/trading can be learned from Dances With Wolves.

:roll::funn: I'm sure there is much truth to that.

 

[DD]

Everything you need to know about gifting/taking/finding/trading can be learned from Dances With Wolves.

 

[audie]

i agree with sj, don't expect a thank you note, a lot of people just don't seem to do that anymore. i see nothing wrong with checking to see if they go the gift tho.

 

[AugustInTransit]

I don't like the Thank You note system. It might be because my mom keeps yelling at me because I keep forgetting to send them.



I just noticed that one and it's one of my favs now.

 

[Cil]

I guess I'm an old grouch.
I know it's the thought that counts and we should selflessly give gifts expecting no kind of reciprocity blah blah blah.
And it's not like I go around with some sort of Miss Manners check list in my head of who has been naughty or nice.
Still, I think it's kinda sad if thankyou notes now seem to be considered quaint and passe.`
My kid got some nice checks in the mail for HS graduation and he is writing notes to each and every gift-giver.
But if a person can't be bothered with that, they could at least email or pick up the phone.