Lady D, I implore you to reconsider that white tile. You mentioned that the area gets a good bit of traffic from outside, and believe me, you will be cursing that tile twice a day as you try in vain to keep it clean. I'd suggest either a tile with enough tonal beige patterning in it to hide dirt, or even a slate in blues/greens if replacing the pink countertops, or in greys/beiges if they'll stay for awhile (many outlets have good flooring prices). Go with darker grout, for the same reasons not to install the white tile. And I would go with an oversize tile, either an 18" square or 12" x 18" rectangle, with small 1/16" grout lines. Even a floating laminate floor would look good, unless it abuts the wood floors you mentioned earlier.
I would paint the cabinets a pale creamy beige, and then antique or glaze them. The antiquing hides both dirt and a less than perfect paint job, and looks very French country, if that's a look you like. Also, I agree that you should change the hinges, and buy pulls to match. There are some websites with good prices on pulls. If you're up to it you could tile the backsplash in a creamy 4" square or brick-shaped tile. Then paint the walls in a color that coordinates with your new floors and cabinets.
I saw an ad for a company that covers your existing countertops with what seems to be a granite veneer. No need to pull out the existing tops. I'll try to catch the name next time I see it; maybe they're national.
And yes, replace the flourescent with a chandelier or island light in a coordinating finish.
We've built and remodeled several homes, and it's a lot of work, but very satisfying to get what you really want. I remodeled one kitchen using the antiqued cabinets and slate floors and loved it. Haven't figured out how to post pics from my computer here yet, but I'll try to post on my home page so you can get an idea. For me, it's so hard to imagine without visuals.
Best of luck! Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be gorgeous.