Hey Kurt, how about a dating area for the website. I've noticed there seem to be a lot of singles on here, mainly wanting to date doctors and art collectors. At any rate how about a place for them to meet?
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SoWal Insider
I'll help you! 
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I'll help you!
Did someone call for a dumb@$$?
It has been mentioned that perhaps it wasn't bright for me to dip into the company well. Point taken, but he works at the same institution, but only for the next 3 weeks, and I never see him if I don't want to. (I had never laid eyes on him until last week.) Dating at work is allowed where I am as a covert operation.
And after he left me a message barely half an hour ago (way the heck past the appropriate time for calling!) and an email message that asked some way-the-heck too personal questions, I replied to the email asking him to back off. I was nice, but I was firm.
NoHall out...and I'm NOT wearing makeup to work tomorrow! :angry:
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Beach Fanatic
K, I've been lurking on this thread, enjoying myself and wondering if I'd get up the nerve to jump in and tell some of my oh-so-fun dating war stories, but I gotta say, after your past few posts NoHall, as your newest BFF, this guy is totally creeping me out!!!
Go with your instincts on this one, because if you just laid eyes on him a few weeks ago, and he already knows all this stuff about you, AND he's making future plans without your consent, AND he's calling you at 10:30 pm AFTER you've told him not to, he's crossed WAY too many boundaries for my taste. Maybe he is just a nice lonely guy with poor social skills... but ya know, if he's that clueless at his age, and can't/won't listen to your wishes & desires this early on, then where do you go from here??? Reasonable, mature people just don't play that way...
And do yourself a favor... go to Intelius.com, plug in his name and find out the cities he's lived in, if you can (the initial free search.) Then google the county websites for those cities, and look up his name in the court records search. You can find out all kinds of interesting information, for free, like if he's ever been convicted of a felony. Then you'll know stuff about him too...
Not that I have any experience with this sort of thing.
Go with your instincts on this one, because if you just laid eyes on him a few weeks ago, and he already knows all this stuff about you, AND he's making future plans without your consent, AND he's calling you at 10:30 pm AFTER you've told him not to, he's crossed WAY too many boundaries for my taste. Maybe he is just a nice lonely guy with poor social skills... but ya know, if he's that clueless at his age, and can't/won't listen to your wishes & desires this early on, then where do you go from here??? Reasonable, mature people just don't play that way...
And do yourself a favor... go to Intelius.com, plug in his name and find out the cities he's lived in, if you can (the initial free search.) Then google the county websites for those cities, and look up his name in the court records search. You can find out all kinds of interesting information, for free, like if he's ever been convicted of a felony. Then you'll know stuff about him too...
Not that I have any experience with this sort of thing.
SWGBAuthor
K, I've been lurking on this thread, enjoying myself and wondering if I'd get up the nerve to jump in and tell some of my oh-so-fun dating war stories, but I gotta say, after your past few posts NoHall, as your newest BFF, this guy is totally creeping me out!!!
Go with your instincts on this one, because if you just laid eyes on him a few weeks ago, and he already knows all this stuff about you, AND he's making future plans without your consent, AND he's calling you at 10:30 pm AFTER you've told him not to, he's crossed WAY too many boundaries for my taste. Maybe he is just a nice lonely guy with poor social skills... but ya know, if he's that clueless at his age, and can't/won't listen to your wishes & desires this early on, then where do you go from here??? Reasonable, mature people just don't play that way...
And do yourself a favor... go to Intelius.com, plug in his name and find out the cities he's lived in, if you can (the initial free search.) Then google the county websites for those cities, and look up his name in the court records search. You can find out all kinds of interesting information, for free, like if he's ever been convicted of a felony. Then you'll know stuff about him too...
Not that I have any experience with this sort of thing.
Now that's some stalking skills. :funn:
Beach Fanatic
Now that's some stalking skills. :funn:
Don't I know it! A single girl's gotta learn a few tricks to survive in this world, it can be brutal out there!
I have a few more tricks I can teach you if'n you're nice to me. Who needs a private detective anyway, just leave it to a scorpio to find whatever dirt might be hiding...
SWGBAuthor
Don't I know it! A single girl's gotta learn a few tricks to survive in this world, it can be brutal out there!
I have a few more tricks I can teach you if'n you're nice to me. Who needs a private detective anyway, just leave it to a scorpio to find whatever dirt might be hiding...
We can get together for coffee and exchange stalking tips. :funn: The first meeting of the SoWal Stalkers Coffee Clutch.
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K, I've been lurking on this thread, enjoying myself and wondering if I'd get up the nerve to jump in and tell some of my oh-so-fun dating war stories, but I gotta say, after your past few posts NoHall, as your newest BFF, this guy is totally creeping me out!!!
Go with your instincts on this one, because if you just laid eyes on him a few weeks ago, and he already knows all this stuff about you, AND he's making future plans without your consent, AND he's calling you at 10:30 pm AFTER you've told him not to, he's crossed WAY too many boundaries for my taste. Maybe he is just a nice lonely guy with poor social skills... but ya know, if he's that clueless at his age, and can't/won't listen to your wishes & desires this early on, then where do you go from here??? Reasonable, mature people just don't play that way...
And do yourself a favor... go to Intelius.com, plug in his name and find out the cities he's lived in, if you can (the initial free search.) Then google the county websites for those cities, and look up his name in the court records search. You can find out all kinds of interesting information, for free, like if he's ever been convicted of a felony. Then you'll know stuff about him too...
Not that I have any experience with this sort of thing.
Don't I know it! A single girl's gotta learn a few tricks to survive in this world, it can be brutal out there!
I have a few more tricks I can teach you if'n you're nice to me. Who needs a private detective anyway, just leave it to a scorpio to find whatever dirt might be hiding...
Ooh! I'm on it--thanks! The good news is that we have to go through pretty intense background checks where I work, so I'm pretty sure he's clean as far as that goes. But I think you're probably right about the "socially awkward" thing.
Jeez...two more emails from him this morning...
needs to get out more
can't believe i'm dropping in to this thread.
1. don't date people at work. 99% of the time it never works out.
2. this chucklehead is making future plans regarding you after one date?? run the other way.
3. based on #2. do NOT respond to him any more. you've indicated how you feel. nothing more is required.
two more emails this am?? inform your superior so you have this behavior on record. do not respond.
1. don't date people at work. 99% of the time it never works out.
2. this chucklehead is making future plans regarding you after one date?? run the other way.
3. based on #2. do NOT respond to him any more. you've indicated how you feel. nothing more is required.
two more emails this am?? inform your superior so you have this behavior on record. do not respond.
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SoWal Insider
We can get together for coffee and exchange stalking tips. :funn: The first meeting of the SoWal Stalkers Coffee Clutch.
SoWal Insider
We can get together for coffee and exchange stalking tips. :funn: The first meeting of the SoWal Stalkers Coffee Clutch.
I'll see you there, but you won't see me. ;-)
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can't believe i'm dropping in to this thread.This is why I love you folks. The depth of wisdom here is wonderful, and the tough love makes my heart happy!
1. don't date people at work. 99% of the time it never works out.
2. this chucklehead is making future plans regarding you after one date?? run the other way.
3. based on #2. do NOT respond to him any more. you've indicated how you feel. nothing more is required.
two more emails this am?? inform your superior so you have this behavior on record. do not respond.
Make that 3 more emails. My boss knows (and is profoundly embarrassed to have set us up.) He said that I have been too nice and no longer have to be--he said to send the "don't call us; we'll call you" email, pointing out that he stepped across some clear boundaries. I just sent that email, and made it clear that it would be my last (and that I expect no more calls or emails from him.)
SoWal Expert
That guy is an overly possessive psycho!!! He can't even SEE the line, he crossed it so long ago!
IMMEDIATELY inform your boss and the Sowal Enforcers if he contacts you again! :angry:
IMMEDIATELY inform your boss and the Sowal Enforcers if he contacts you again! :angry:
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Breaking up is hard to do...
Breathe a collective sigh of relief...I believe the drama has ended. He thanked me for my honesty, apologized for stepping over the boundaries, and promised to respect my wishes that he not call or email me anymore. I will not respond to that email, but when I blew him off I did wish him well and express my hope that some dear girl will appreciate all his kindness someday.
Obviously, this dating thread turned into TMI about a page ago, but I hope we (and by "we" I am speaking for myself) have learned a lot from this experience. Thank you all for being a sounding board.
Can I change the subject slightly? What do all of you think of the old-fashioned notion of courting? It seems to me that group dating and socializing truly is a safe, effective way of getting to know someone.
That guy is an overly possessive psycho!!! He can't even SEE the line, he crossed it so long ago!
IMMEDIATELY inform your boss and the Sowal Enforcers if he contacts you again! :angry:
Breathe a collective sigh of relief...I believe the drama has ended. He thanked me for my honesty, apologized for stepping over the boundaries, and promised to respect my wishes that he not call or email me anymore. I will not respond to that email, but when I blew him off I did wish him well and express my hope that some dear girl will appreciate all his kindness someday.
Obviously, this dating thread turned into TMI about a page ago, but I hope we (and by "we" I am speaking for myself) have learned a lot from this experience. Thank you all for being a sounding board.
Can I change the subject slightly? What do all of you think of the old-fashioned notion of courting? It seems to me that group dating and socializing truly is a safe, effective way of getting to know someone.
SoWal Expert
What do all of you think of the old-fashioned notion of courting? It seems to me that group dating and socializing truly is a safe, effective way of getting to know someone.
This basically describes dating at my college - so great and I REALLY miss it! (well, that and the giant pool of eligible men w/ good teeth)
It is also why I am so bad at "dating" - I never actually "dated" before I was 21 - you just had a giant coed group of friends/acquaintances (usually anchored by one relationship) that hung out and paired off every so often.
Beach Fanatic
What do all of you think of the old-fashioned notion of courting? It seems to me that group dating and socializing truly is a safe, effective way of getting to know someone.
This basically describes dating at my college - so great and I REALLY miss it! (well, that and the giant pool of eligible men w/ good teeth)
It is also why I am so bad at "dating" - I never actually "dated" before I was 21 - you just had a giant coed group of friends/acquaintances (usually anchored by one relationship) that hung out and paired off every so often.
Totally agree... I always prefer to meet someone within a group of people and get to know him as a friend first. No pressure, and hopefully lots of fun & laughter. Then if there's chemistry and mutual attraction, it becomes apparent and you go on a "real" date.
Unfortunately, in today's world often the only group situations we find ourselves in are work-related, so that rule about not dating co-workers gets broken a lot.
Beach Lover
This basically describes dating at my college - so great and I REALLY miss it! (well, that and the giant pool of eligible men w/ good teeth)
It is also why I am so bad at "dating" - I never actually "dated" before I was 21 - you just had a giant coed group of friends/acquaintances (usually anchored by one relationship) that hung out and paired off every so often.
I thinks it's a great idea. I become shy, and a bit withdrawn, when I'm one-on-one with a man I don't know very well. Meeting someone while surrounded by people I trust and am comfortable with would be sooo much better.
SoWal Expert
I become shy, and a bit withdrawn, when I'm one-on-one with a man I don't know very well.
Ditto, which is crazy because very few people meeting me in a non-date situation would describe me as shy or tongue tied! I could address a crowd of 500, but get me on a date and my IQ drops about 100 pts - blithering idiot would be a kind description of some of my verbal oopsies!
Beach Fanatic
Ditto, which is crazy because very few people meeting me in a non-date situation would describe me as shy or tongue tied! I could address a crowd of 500, but get me on a date and my IQ drops about 100 pts - blithering idiot would be a kind description of some of my verbal oopsies!
:funn:I resemble that remark!
needs to get out more
blithering idiot i have not been called. idiot, phucking idiot...
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I thinks it's a great idea. I become shy, and a bit withdrawn, when I'm one-on-one with a man I don't know very well. Meeting someone while surrounded by people I trust and am comfortable with would be sooo much better.
blithering idiot i have not been called. idiot, phucking idiot...
That's what I was thinking, too--I told this guy that on Saturday I felt comfortable with my friends there, but one on one with a stranger I felt like I was at an interview for a job I 1) knew nothing about and 2) wasn't sure I really wanted.
Oh, John R...you're not an idiot. But I've heard lots of other names for you!
(All given with great affection.)needs to get out more
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That's beautiful...
SoWal Expert
I really don't understand stalking!
Why would you put so much time and effort into someone who doesn't want you?
Why would you put so much time and effort into someone who doesn't want you?
SoWal Insider
I really don't understand stalking!
Why would you put so much time and effort into someone who doesn't want you?
It's about control as well as delusional psychosis. Most stalkers have personality disorders to start with and becoming overly possessive after a first date is a major red flag. Moving too fast is another and thats why my bells went off after reading NoHalls post.
Someone earlier said something about trusting your gut and I firmly believe in it. I also have a friend who imparted a little wisdom to me after he worked as an assistant District Attorney in New York and New Orleans. He said, "Be careful AL, anyone can pretend to be normal for six months, after that, you start seeing the real person."
Beach Fanatic
I am taking this seriously, and I think aleonard's post is spot on, but I read this sentence really fast:
and read the word "balls" instead of "bells" and it confused the heck out of me for a moment, until I read it again.
Oy, thanks for the laugh, I needed it! And now back to the serious topic at hand...
Moving too fast is another and thats why my bells went off after reading NoHalls post.
and read the word "balls" instead of "bells" and it confused the heck out of me for a moment, until I read it again.
Oy, thanks for the laugh, I needed it! And now back to the serious topic at hand...
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