My sons have all that they need now, for their home!
Thanks, people!
Thanks, people!
Found Home In Sowal For Sons, Now Needing Household Items!
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Diane, I am 30 something and my mom still helps me with things. She still buys me things and pampers me as if I was 16. I am an adult but love that my mom is here and is able to help me. I hope she is 90 and still does it, cuz I love her....
I think you are great helping your boys out.
I think you are great helping your boys out. PHP:Diane, how are your "boys" going to ever provide for themselves if you arrange their life? :idontno: Mom's are great to have around to do things for a kid, until he or she turns about 17. At some point, you need to let go so that they can grow. ;-)
Yeah IBD, I was wondering where the posts went, from understanding people, re:my being there for my sons!Geez, life's hard enough, without making issues about being there for others!
Let's get a real problem!;-) I would do that for anyone, having a need! Kinda leaves me, a little disallusioned!
If people don't want to help others, then don't! But don't put us down, for doing so!
PHP:
[quote="InletBchDweller, post: 140652"]Diane, I am 30 something and my mom still helps me with things. She still buys me things and pampers me as if I was 16. I am an adult but love that my mom is here and is able to help me. I hope she is 90 and still does it, cuz I love her....:wub: I think you are great helping your boys out.[/quote]PS:Luv your signature, so true!
"Men are like Slinky's - Good for nothing, but you can't help but smile when one falls down a flight of stairs!!!"
hey Diane:
don't be put off my our Uncle Smiling Joseph. He's the first one in line to do whatever is needed for others, every time. He just don't know about being a mama.
My dear Italian mama has always done every single thing she can for us, and then some, and she does this for everyone else in her life as well. Some moms can't stop doing for their children, their family and their friends, neighbors and even folks they barely know. I think this is a dying art. The art of true caring, selflessness and love.
Of course, the Italian mama also likes to tell us how to live our lives and expects us to "mind" no matter how old we are or how far away we may live. it's all good though.
don't be put off my our Uncle Smiling Joseph. He's the first one in line to do whatever is needed for others, every time. He just don't know about being a mama.
My dear Italian mama has always done every single thing she can for us, and then some, and she does this for everyone else in her life as well. Some moms can't stop doing for their children, their family and their friends, neighbors and even folks they barely know. I think this is a dying art. The art of true caring, selflessness and love.
Of course, the Italian mama also likes to tell us how to live our lives and expects us to "mind" no matter how old we are or how far away we may live. it's all good though.
Tootsie makes a good point that there are some selfless people in this world who will do anything to help anyone within their means.
I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.
I think that was probably what SJ was suggesting.
I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.
I think that was probably what SJ was suggesting.
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PHP:
[quote="Mango, post: 140749"]Tootsie makes a good point that there are some selfless people in this world who will do anything to help anyone within their means.
I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.
[/quote]Mango, I appreciate your insight and do agree, that we need to let our children learn, from experiences and mistakes.:clap_1: Don't think for a second, that I'm unable to "detach with love". I can probably do that, better than most! ;-) What I felt was out of line re:SJ's comment, was his incinuating that they will never be able to handle anything, if I am EVER there for them!:nono1: That's a serious observation, coming from someone not knowing us. Bottom line is that I, or anyone for that matter, should do what THEY feel is right for them. Like I've said, if people want to help others and post a need on this board, they shouldn't be faulted for it. To each his own, rings a bell!
Diane -
Having had personal experience with your son my opinion here is a little biased:
As you recall - I needed a lot cleared and posted that information to the message board here, you then called me, emailed me, and told me your son could definately do the job, was a good kid, hard worker etc, etc and arranged all the details of the job.
Then after I meet your son on site and give him a $500 deposit to pay for supplies to do the job he runs off with the money and never even starts the job! This makes you look bad. I would have to say this is clearly an example of a spoiled kid who's word and handshake are not important to him. Time to stop holding his hand I would say and make him do his own growing up.
Having had personal experience with your son my opinion here is a little biased:
As you recall - I needed a lot cleared and posted that information to the message board here, you then called me, emailed me, and told me your son could definately do the job, was a good kid, hard worker etc, etc and arranged all the details of the job.
Then after I meet your son on site and give him a $500 deposit to pay for supplies to do the job he runs off with the money and never even starts the job! This makes you look bad. I would have to say this is clearly an example of a spoiled kid who's word and handshake are not important to him. Time to stop holding his hand I would say and make him do his own growing up.
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Just to be fair - this is the email where I was informed that the work would not be done! (i did edit out personal information that I did not think was appropriate to mention here, if diane wants the entire message posted, she can post it)
Randy,
I'm really sorry, at how this situation has turned out! You may not believe it, but Russ is, too! He didn't want to believe that he couldn't handle it, but apparently, that was the case. He had to take a full time job and has had numerous issues, to deal with. Not the least of which, was the *****personal********. I won't bore you, with the details! I wasn't aware of the overall situation here, as he didn't want to concern me.
Russ is going to be leaving for the Arctic Circle soon, to work with my brother. There is a great opportunity for Russ there and I'm very hopeful for him! ****personal*****. Again, I'm hopeful that the Alaskan trip and time with my brother, will be of great benefit!
Russ will be returning items that he can and sending you a money order, for the balance. Please provide your mailing address and I'll forward it to him. Unfortunately, he felt that it would be best, if handled in this way. I hope and pray that you forgive and I know that Russ does, as well!
Sincerely,
Diane *******
(Needless to say the money order never came.....)
Randy,
I'm really sorry, at how this situation has turned out! You may not believe it, but Russ is, too! He didn't want to believe that he couldn't handle it, but apparently, that was the case. He had to take a full time job and has had numerous issues, to deal with. Not the least of which, was the *****personal********. I won't bore you, with the details! I wasn't aware of the overall situation here, as he didn't want to concern me.
Russ is going to be leaving for the Arctic Circle soon, to work with my brother. There is a great opportunity for Russ there and I'm very hopeful for him! ****personal*****. Again, I'm hopeful that the Alaskan trip and time with my brother, will be of great benefit!
Russ will be returning items that he can and sending you a money order, for the balance. Please provide your mailing address and I'll forward it to him. Unfortunately, he felt that it would be best, if handled in this way. I hope and pray that you forgive and I know that Russ does, as well!
Sincerely,
Diane *******
(Needless to say the money order never came.....)
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Mango, I appreciate your insight and do agree, that we need to let our children learn, from experiences and mistakes.:clap_1: Don't think for a second, that I'm unable to "detach with love". I can probably do that, better than most! ;-) What I felt was out of line re:SJ's comment, was his incinuating that they will never be able to handle anything, if I am EVER there for them!:nono1: That's a serious observation, coming from someone not knowing us. Bottom line is that I, or anyone for that matter, should do what THEY feel is right for them. Like I've said, if people want to help others and post a need on this board, they shouldn't be faulted for it. To each his own, rings a bell!PHP:
No, what I was incinuating was that your sons are grown men, one who has fought in a war, and that they should be able to do just fine on their own. You stated in one of the deleted posts, that your sons didn't have access to SoWal. FYI - there are several business in SoWal with free internet access and computers on which to surf the web. The local library also works well for that purpose, seven days a week. It seems that everything you post is about something they need, so in my mind, I sense that you don't allow them to figure things out on their own. There is no single post of yours which would make me believe this, but the collection of all of them which leads me to my observations. One minute, it is a post about "go see Russ at Old Florida Fish House" -- (ie- he needs your tips) -- BTW - Russ waited on me and did a great job! Then, Russ needs a job. Next, one of my sons needs your skymiles. I think again, they needed a place to live. Then a washer and dryer. blah, blah, blah.
I understand that SoWal is a place to post info, including everything which you have ever asked about. You are in the perfect spot for that, and seem to have filled some of your sons' needs via SoWal. My statement is simply an observation of the collective group of posts, and I was trying to gently offer you some advice, from the perspective of a son. If you don't like my advice, just say, "screw you," as you did and move on.
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