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[dbuck]

I'm with peapod on this. Whatever you can live with, so be it. We never had trouble with ours when he was in the baby bed but once he went to the big boy's bed, then it was a different story. He became free to roam during the night, it was musical beds around our house for a while. I never knew where I was going to wake up. But don't fret, he doesn't do this anymore, he's 18. Now we have a dog that is afraid of thunder and he jumps in bed with us.

 

[CastlesOfSand]

Don't tell me that sweet little boy is giving you trouble!!! I remember those days! You'll make it through them, I promise. My son was the one who did the same thing to us. His doctor told us to use the crying method too! I just couldn't handle it. (the crying and the lack of sleep/I was pregnant too) He could outlast the best of them!! He ended up sleeping with us most of the time until he was 4 or I would snuggle him in his bed until he fell asleep (he would still end up in our bed). Guess I was just a softy when it came down to it!! I'm like jdarg, It made me cry to see him crying so hard. Good luck on whatever you decide. Who ever said it was easy to be a parent!

 

[kathydwells]

I went through the same thing with my now 12 year old. It was hard, but I knew that for his sake he needed to learn to fall asleep on his own. I decided one night that this was the night. I put him to bed, and he screamed and cried, I waited 5 minutes then went in to check on him. I did not pick him up, I told him everything was fine and then left the room. He screamed, 10 more minutes, and then I went in again. Repeated the same thing until after 25 minutes, he was fast asleep on his own. This went on for 3 nights, and then like magic he never screamed again, and fell asleep on his own from then on. All kids are different and what works for some does not work for others. You and your wife have to follow your hearts and minds on how to overcome this. And for sure don't feel like a failure if you can't get through it. It is so hard to listen to them scream, but as someone else said. This too shall pass. I would cry right along with him in the living room, it was hard for me as well, and it will be for you and your wife. But you will get through it. Good Luck, LL. Now my 12 year old never wants to get out of the bed....it all works out in the end.

 

[Landlocked]

Thanks for the advice folks. One thing that keeps biting us is that once we get him to sleep in his bed, he'll get a cold or something where we need to keep a close eye on him. So we wind up starting all over again. We'll figure it out. Where can I find those earplugs?

 

[RiverOtter]

Otter #1 we let scream it out. Man that was one of the worst nights I can remember but it did work. Otter #2 was / is a great sleeper. If they have had a nightmare or we are experiencing a bad storm they will crawl in bed with us and we don't mind at all. But that is very rare.

 

[Landlocked]

Otter #1 we let scream it out. Man that was one of the worst nights I can remember but it did work. Otter #2 was / is a great sleeper. If they have had a nightmare or we are experiencing a bad storm they will crawl in bed with us and we don't mind at all. But that is very rare.

Mabye our #2 will be a better sleeper.

 

[Miss Kitty]

The Nanny deal I saw went something like this...(start on the weekend)...

Put Walker to bed and with lights out and one parent sits by the bed...say nothing, just be there...start inching out, until you are out the door and "hopefully" child is asleep. I know this sounds simplistic, but it did work. Somebody else needs to fill in the blanks if I have omitted a step.

 

[dbuck]

The Nanny deal I saw went something like this...(start on the weekend)...

Put Walker to bed and with lights out and one parent sits by the bed...say nothing, just be there...start inching out, until you are out the door and "hopefully" child is asleep. I know this sounds simplistic, but it did work. Somebody else needs to fill in the blanks if I have omitted a step.

STEP 1: Giving Valium to the parents.

 

[TooFarTampa]

STEP 1: Giving Valium to the parents.

Mother's helper!! :funn: :rofl:

 

[Landlocked]

The Nanny deal I saw went something like this...(start on the weekend)...

Put Walker to bed and with lights out and one parent sits by the bed...say nothing, just be there...start inching out, until you are out the door and "hopefully" child is asleep. I know this sounds simplistic, but it did work. Somebody else needs to fill in the blanks if I have omitted a step.

We tried that the other night.

He had his arm sticking through the rails on his bed and his hand was latched on to my wife's shirt. He eventually fell asleeep and she had to twist herself out of the shirt so he could keep holding on to it. It was so dam funny.