I need some advice

[Lady D]

I totally agree w/ TNJed!

Stay out of it as much as possible (I know that's hard, especially w/ such major consequences and when he is calling you about it) and do your best to support your son without badmouthing or causing a rift w/ your daughter in law.

Perhaps finding a non-military alternative (or a job for her) that would provide health insurance or college money? I keep seeing TV ads for low cost health insurance.

Obviously something happened to make her suddenly start forcing the issue like this - there is always more to the story, but it sounds very odd and unhealthy.

There are many alternatives other than the military where insurance is concerned. If she doesn't stay off of the phone at her temporary job she won't have that to go to. They will get tired of that. She has built up a huge amount of medical bills. Medical bills they cannot afford and haven't been able to pay on. Like over $10,000. I am sure that stresses her along with her mother's death.

 

[scooterbug44]

Is it possible her mother's sudden death has freaked her out and she is worried about not having any safety net?

She lost her mother 3 weeks ago and now she wants her husband to have a permanent job w/ health insurance and educational benefits......

I think she definitely needs counseling at any rate.

 

[Lady D]

Is it possible her mother's sudden death has freaked her out and she is worried about not having any safety net?

She lost her mother 3 weeks ago and now she wants her husband to have a permanent job w/ health insurance and educational benefits......

I think she definitely needs counseling at any rate.

He can get insurance through his work but through an outside insurance company. I told him to check on it tomorrow when he goes back to work, just to get a ballpark figure on how much it is.

 

[Franny]

He can get insurance through his work but through an outside insurance company. I told him to check on it tomorrow when he goes back to work, just to get a ballpark figure on how much it is.

Having insurance is important but if he gets the insurance now, the company will not pay for her outstanding bills or if she has pre-exsting medical problems..just a thought.

 

[Lady D]

Having insurance is important but if he gets the insurance now, the company will not pay for her outstanding bills or if she has pre-exsting medical problems..just a thought.

I know they won't pay for any pre-existing conditions, so I don't understand her push for all of this. I think she is panicking. She mentioned to him them not having any life insurance. She does have health insurance on them both for now but only until the end of the month.