Looking for married couples to share their secrets

[Lady D]

My parents dated for about 3 or 4 months and will have been married 59 years on October 16th. Talk about being married for a long time. They both have obviously done something right all these years. But my mother has had to put up with a lot over the past couple of years having to deal with my dad's Alzheimers.

 

[Mango]

LOL!

I was about to point out that my hub leaves every day with a loaded gun, but then it dawned on me. :funn:

It is also helpful that both spouses be secure in knowing that when the wife's back and elbow :angry: both hurt, it is ok for the husband to clean the rifle himself, in order to avoid a dangerous misfire later.

or when there's a small load of laundry, it can be certainly be done by hand vs. running the whole washer.

 

[Biff]

Or you can take turns cleaning weapons like me and Mrs biff do

it always brings out excellent communication!!!!!!!!


honey; did you remember to load my extra magazines? the 50 round 9mm for my MP5; and can you pack me a lunch as well??

LOL!

I was about to point out that my hub leaves every day with a loaded gun, but then it dawned on me. :funn:

It is also helpful that both spouses be secure in knowing that when the wife's back and elbow :angry: both hurt, it is ok for the husband to clean the rifle himself, in order to avoid a dangerous misfire later.

 

[Matt J]

Seperate closets? After I dragged my husband out of his we don't need seperate closets as we can share all of our clothes (without embarassment [sometimes]).

Seriously though, no matter how mad you are at one another never deny the other a return on an "I Love You".

 

[Chickpea]

Married almost 11 and together for 13

I once asked one of my mum's friends (who happened to be a marriage therapist and had counseled hundreds of couples in her life) what did she think successful couples did. Her answer was:

60% convergence and 40% divergence.

Convergence is necessary for core values, finances, child raising, work, ethics, etc... but having divergent interests and one's own hobbies, friends, etc that contribute to one's validation is critical for self love and respect. It is obviously important to support your partner's 40% but one does not have to constantly be always aiming for agreement.

Works for us.

 

[NoHall]

Seperate closets? After I dragged my husband out of his we don't need seperate closets as we can share all of our clothes (without embarassment [sometimes]).

If I had a husband I wouldn't want him stretching out my sweaters.

 

[micki]

We have been married for 25 years (and will be celebrating a second honeymoon in sowal next week!).

Be committed to honoring your commitment.
Marriage is not the place to be self-centered.
Have the conflict, and resolve it with love, listening to the other person and understanding (great if you can do conflict resolution in front of the kids to teach them how to do it!)
Communication, of course!

 

[Lady D]

Wonder what weddingeditor plans on doing with our posts on this topic???

 

[Bikermomof2]

Think outside the box (i.e. nooners instead of after the kids have gone to bed and you're too tired from cooking, cleaning, tucking in, etc.)Men love to be loved. It's a level of connection that can't be underestimated. Always put your spouse first - kids second. Be allies and friends. Everyone fights - it's how you make up that determines if you'll succeed. Be the first to say "I'm sorry" (unless you really aren't). Being right is not better than being happy and loved.

17 years of marriage (5 good ones )! Any questions?

 

[gatrader]

Remember the 80% rule. Everybody has faults and will never give you 100% of what you expect. Keep in mind that if your partner fulfulls 80% of what you need, then you have more than your share. Expect to get the other 20% through friends, family, work, etc.

Respect one another. You should never make a decision without thinking of how it will affect your partner or family.

Tell your partner something nice about them every day. People need to feel loved. Compliments are always a nice way to keep the spark alive.

Be grateful for each day you have together...