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hnooe

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"When Fascism comes to America (if ever) it will be carrying the flag, the cross, and a Wal Mart Charge card..."
 

Smiling JOe

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In the past, when I have shopped at WalMart, I became aware that most people driving in the parking lot were rude and often didn't yield for pedestrians. (gives me a new idea on safer designs for all parking lots.) Once inside, the same attitude persists. People all have the get out of my way attitude. As I would go through the store, trying to find what I needed so that I could be in and out rather quickly, in order to limit my depression and claustrophobic tendencies, I began to realize that I was projecting myself onto other people. This didn't discount what the others were doing, but it made me aware that my frustration with being in, and at, WalMart, was really with myself, as I, too, had the get out of my way mentality as I rushed through the store. Since that realization, WalMart doesn't bother me as much. I realize that it is I who bother myself. Thanks to Sarah for helping me see the light. She says that if you want to know yourself, be comfortable with the idea of simply being while in WalMart. She mentioned another quote, which I'll paraphrase, If you think you are at peace with the world, go home for Christmas.
 
In the past, when I have shopped at WalMart, I became aware that most people driving in the parking lot were rude and often didn't yield for pedestrians. (gives me a new idea on safer designs for all parking lots.) Once inside, the same attitude persists. People all have the get out of my way attitude. As I would go through the store, trying to find what I needed so that I could be in and out rather quickly, in order to limit my depression and claustrophobic tendencies, I began to realize that I was projecting myself onto other people. This didn't discount what the others were doing, but it made me aware that my frustration with being in, and at, WalMart, was really with myself, as I, too, had the get out of my way mentality as I rushed through the store. Since that realization, WalMart doesn't bother me as much. I realize that it is I who bother myself. Thanks to Sarah for helping me see the light. She says that if you want to know yourself, be comfortable with the idea of simply being while in WalMart. She mentioned another quote, which I'll paraphrase, If you think you are at peace with the world, go home for Christmas.


does this mean ...if you think you are at peace then you can "deal with" everything when you go home....or does this mean...."if you think you're at peace then you get to test this for real when you go home"?
 

Smiling JOe

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does this mean ...if you think you are at peace then you can "deal with" everything when you go home....or does this mean...."if you think you're at peace then you get to test this for real when you go home"?
the latter. We often fool ourselves by ignoring the real red flags which should be alerting us to the reasons why we feel the way we do. When we go back home, those red flags pop up with every turn, and suddenly, we realize that we are truly not at peace with the world, we just avoided the things which drive us crazy.
 

hnooe

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Jul 21, 2007
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In the past, when I have shopped at WalMart, I became aware that most people driving in the parking lot were rude and often didn't yield for pedestrians. (gives me a new idea on safer designs for all parking lots.) Once inside, the same attitude persists. People all have the get out of my way attitude. As I would go through the store, trying to find what I needed so that I could be in and out rather quickly, in order to limit my depression and claustrophobic tendencies, I began to realize that I was projecting myself onto other people. This didn't discount what the others were doing, but it made me aware that my frustration with being in, and at, WalMart, was really with myself, as I, too, had the get out of my way mentality as I rushed through the store. Since that realization, WalMart doesn't bother me as much. I realize that it is I who bother myself. Thanks to Sarah for helping me see the light. She says that if you want to know yourself, be comfortable with the idea of simply being while in WalMart. She mentioned another quote, which I'll paraphrase, If you think you are at peace with the world, go home for Christmas.

WOW. That is exactly how I feel--glad I am not alone on this. The attitude in the parking lot ( I am talking Destin here) is a truly bizarre phenomena. Even with manuevering your cart insider, there is no "please," "exuse me," no social graces whatsoever--it is like being at the Macy's NY Herald Square during their after-Christmas sale!
 

JustaLocal

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Jul 11, 2007
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In the past, when I have shopped at WalMart, I became aware that most people driving in the parking lot were rude and often didn't yield for pedestrians. (gives me a new idea on safer designs for all parking lots.) Once inside, the same attitude persists. People all have the get out of my way attitude. As I would go through the store, trying to find what I needed so that I could be in and out rather quickly, in order to limit my depression and claustrophobic tendencies, I began to realize that I was projecting myself onto other people. This didn't discount what the others were doing, but it made me aware that my frustration with being in, and at, WalMart, was really with myself, as I, too, had the get out of my way mentality as I rushed through the store. Since that realization, WalMart doesn't bother me as much. I realize that it is I who bother myself. Thanks to Sarah for helping me see the light. She says that if you want to know yourself, be comfortable with the idea of simply being while in WalMart. She mentioned another quote, which I'll paraphrase, If you think you are at peace with the world, go home for Christmas.

I agree with you 100% on the parking lot situation. However, I think unfriendly customers are found in many area stores. I try to "get out of their way." I usually smile and say something like "oh, excuse me." Last winter was the first time in my life that someone reached in front of my face (within biting range!) to get something off a shelf I was standing in front of. Now it has happened three times. I just smile, step back, and wish their mother had taught them manners. I do my best to show by example how to behave in stores. In Publix I always just patiently wait when a person stops in the middle of an aisle to speak loudly into their cell phone or to search through their purse. I never bump them with my cart. (I?ve seen this done!)
While on the subject, how about people passing you on a stroll along the shore, look directly at you when you greet them, and not say a word? Not even smile. Sad to have been raised that way.
 

peapod1980

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In Publix I always just patiently wait when a person stops in the middle of an aisle to speak loudly into their cell phone or to search through their purse. I never bump them with my cart. (I?ve seen this done!)
I bet that was SJ. He has major issues with buggies blocking the aisles, just ask him.
 

Smiling JOe

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I bet that was SJ. He has major issues with buggies blocking the aisles, just ask him.
I stopped bumping buggies back around 1979, but I've been known to secret shop for people who insist on blocking isles, unnecessarily. I make a distinction between people who do it without care for others and those who block the isle due to a tight space and say, "excuse me." Nothing like an extra tin of sardines in the cupboard. :wave:
 
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