The Roles of Husbands and Wives

[2bfabian]

Dear Mr. 2b,

Please stay on the subject. :roll:

Dear miss Kitty,

I am so sorry. You are absolutely correct in your above statement.

I choose to sit this one out and watch how Mr. Gundee is going to dig him self out of this hole.

I think he has bit off more than he can chew.:roll:

 

[2bfabian]

Note to everyone, when you quote fabian, I can read his posts. Please refrain if possible.

Dear Mr. Joe,

Shouldn't you be trying to give someone's property away?

That anger is going to get to you, if you don't change.

 

[2bfabian]

Note to everyone, when you quote fabian, I can read his posts. Please refrain if possible.

Oh your reading and dreaming about them.

You must be used to dealing with light weights. Just think of me as the 800 lb. muddy puppy in the room.:roll:

You want this to stop? then apologies. Otherwise it's going to be a long summer.

 

[TNJed]

fabian/gundee, not that you'll heed this, but SJ and others have you on their ignore list which means they can't see your posts. Even when you quote them.

Excuse me now while I go perform corporal mortification for my transgressions.

 

[2bfabian]

fabian/gundee, not that you'll heed this, but SJ and others have you on their ignore list which means they can't see your posts. Even when you quote them.

Excuse me now while I go perform corporal mortification for my transgressions.

This is fine,because others will read them and see just what kind of person SJ is. Does he really think I care if he reads this post.

No, I want all the new people to know what kind of person he is. He can talk about others but runs like a scared troublemaker. If someone was writing anything about me I would choose to know. He is good about putting others down. Maybe he needs to look in the mirror.

Note to everyone he is not ignoring me because I keep getting his Pm's

 

[Chickpea]

I have been very happily married for a little over 10 years and my husband is a real partner in work, in life, in the marriage and as a father. Roles are fluid and not necessarily defined and we do whatever we can to help each other and our kids.

The night before I got married I was sitting at my parents table with about 10 of their friends (some long time married, some who were on the 4th wedding, others never married and yet still others living with partners) - I asked them to give me a single piece of advice for a happy marriage. I got many gems but the best advice I was given was as follows and was given by marriage therapist who had counseled hundreds of couples - she told me, "When I think of those marraiges that have happily lasted, there is a general rule of thumb -

"60% convergence and 40% divergence"

Meaning that hopefully 60% of the time you agree, have the same values, goals, objectives, trust, faith, etc... BUT each person better have their own interests, hobbies, work, friends, etc... that they can pursue but know that they are supported in this by their partner. Makes for a healthy balance.

Simple rule that has worked wonderfully well for us.

Thanks

 

[TNJed]

... I got many gems but the best advice I was given was as follows and was given by marriage therapist who had counseled hundreds of couples - she told me, "When I think of those marraiges that have happily lasted, there is a general rule of thumb -

"60% convergence and 40% divergence"

Meaning that hopefully 60% of the time you agree, have the same values, goals, objectives, trust, faith, etc... BUT each person better have their own interests, hobbies, work, friends, etc... that they can pursue but know that they are supported in this by their partner. Makes for a healthy balance.

Simple rule that has worked wonderfully well for us.

Thanks

That makes A LOT of sense for just about any relationship, especially a lifetime commitment. Good advice and thanks for sharing it. I'll put that in my [SIZE=-1]Funk and Wagnalls[/SIZE]!

 

[Allifunn]

That makes A LOT of sense for just about any relationship, especially a lifetime commitment. Good advice and thanks for sharing it. I'll put that in my [SIZE=-1]Funk and Wagnalls[/SIZE]!

Chickpea is one of the most enlightened persons I know! Great view girl!

 

[Phoenix Rising]

I had someone once tell me, "Hold on to a good wife because you'll never get rid of a bad one." As I have watched friend's marriages come and go this seems to hold true....alimony, child support, stalking, etc. etc.

 

[Miss Kitty]

Okay y'all...I have been married for almost 30 years. This is what I have learned. True love is when your husband makes you Planter's Punch and puts it in tupperware and even cuts oranges for garnish. Then, he happily drives you home.