The Roles of Husbands and Wives

[jimmyp5]

gundee, I was initially suspicious of your trip with respect to this thread ... but wherever you're coming from, you're a prolific -- and more importantly, polite and literate -- poster, and it's appreciated

 

[barefootguy]

From a Biblical perspective ... Adam and Eve were given a garden to take care of. After the fall they lost that job and things got ugly.

My wife and I decided we'd try the original plan, although we don't have a garden. We got married in '91 and quit our jobs in '95 so we could spend the rest of our married life working as a team and hanging out together. It's been an awesome ride. I've known some couples that can't handle being around each other, but we rather enjoy it. It's not as odd these days as it was in the past, but we've never had tv in our home. I think that's been a great plus! It forces us to be creative with our time, and we definitely like to keep busy.

We never think about roles, we just work as a team. We don't have a bread winner, we make the bread together. We each have our skills, strengths, weaknesses, quirks, etc.

 

[Tupelo Honey]

We never think about roles, we just work as a team. We don't have a bread winner, we make the bread together. We each have our skills, strengths, weaknesses, quirks, etc.

I like this approach.

 

[BeachSiO2]

Here's some more fodder for discussion...

http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory?id=3161352
U.S. Divorce Rate Lowest Since 1970


U.S. Divorce Rate Falls to Lowest Level Since 1970; Experts Differ Over Why




The Associated Press
By DAVID CRARY AP National Writer
NEW YORK May 10, 2007 (AP)

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By the numbers, divorce just isn't what it used to be.
Despite the common notion that America remains plagued by a divorce epidemic, the national per capita divorce rate has declined steadily since its peak in 1981 and is now at its lowest level since 1970....(cont)

 

[Gypsea]

Interesting article BSiO2. I especially liked the following quote:Stephanie Coontz, who teaches history and family studies at Evergreen State College in Olympia, Wash., says divorces are dropping in the college-educated sector because many spouses "are learning how to negotiate marriages based on less rigid gender roles than in the past." In our marriage it is definitely all about give and take. If we had a marriage czar I know that neither one of us would have wanted to make it past our first anniversary. As it is, we will be celebrating our 32ond anniversary this summer and we are just as excited to be with each other now as when we were kids. :clap_1:

 

[BeachSiO2]

Interesting article BSiO2. I especially liked the following quote:Stephanie Coontz, who teaches history and family studies at Evergreen State College in Olympia, Wash., says divorces are dropping in the college-educated sector because many spouses "are learning how to negotiate marriages based on less rigid gender roles than in the past." In our marriage it is definitely all about give and take. If we had a marriage tzar I know that neither one of us would have wanted to make it past our first anniversary. As it is, we will be celebrating our 32ond anniversary this summer and we are just as excited to be with each other now as when we were kids. :clap_1:

I am with you 100%, we are both college educated, best friends and happily married. I think it would be an injustice to not take advantage of each others strengths in a relationship (just like you do in a business), and if one is the Czar that would be difficult if not impossible.

 

[gundee123]

gundee, I was initially suspicious of your trip with respect to this thread ... but wherever you're coming from, you're a prolific -- and more importantly, polite and literate -- poster, and it's appreciated

Thank you for your kinds words. I am truly interested in what others have to say about the thread, especially those with different perspectives. I have learned a lot from reading the comments of others. You see, I do not look at this thread as an either other issue, but varying views. Again, thank you for your comments.

 

[JB]

I would give anything if my wife didn't have to work (she can't as she makes more than me). I say this not because I want her more domesticated, but because I don't like daycare. Matter fact, I abhor it.

 

[gundee123]

From a Biblical perspective ... Adam and Eve were given a garden to take care of. After the fall they lost that job and things got ugly.

My wife and I decided we'd try the original plan, although we don't have a garden. We got married in '91 and quit our jobs in '95 so we could spend the rest of our married life working as a team and hanging out together. It's been an awesome ride. I've known some couples that can't handle being around each other, but we rather enjoy it. It's not as odd these days as it was in the past, but we've never had tv in our home. I think that's been a great plus! It forces us to be creative with our time, and we definitely like to keep busy.

We never think about roles, we just work as a team. We don't have a bread winner, we make the bread together. We each have our skills, strengths, weaknesses, quirks, etc.

Thank you for your comments and congratulations on the successful marriage that you enjoy (16 years?). I really admire the sacrifice that you have made in order to spend the rest of your married life hanging out together. Please tell me, "How can you get along with a TV?" I think that is amazing.

If I may say so, it appears to me that you two have a relationship much like the one I talked about in paragraph 1 of post #3. Do your agree? Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this thread.

 

[gundee123]

I like this approach.

Thank you for your comment. I like that approach also. In fact, whenever a couple develops a system that will benefit the marriage, I think that it's simply outstanding. Thank you for your response.