Grandma is dead and the kids are fighting...

[scooterbug44]

I would definitely consult a lawyer and a realtor/appraiser. Uncle's actions sound a bit sketchy - I don't know Crestview real estate, but would assume that a house and land is worth more than $25K.

Very sad how ugly it can get when people start squabbling over inheritances. Try to not let it cause ill will.

 

[Mermaid]

Hey thanks all...

Here are a few more details I learned...

The will and property will be in probate...handled by my uncle's attorney no less. I think that needs to be changed. The uncle is fighting an appraisal because it is currently view as residential. It is actually zoned commercial/residential.

I'm all for the quick buyout but it needs to be based on the fair market value of a commercial property.

Trust your instinct. An impartial attorney needs to look at all this! And I am sorry. I hope that money squabbling does not drive the siblings apart.

 

[dgsevier]

Well, I feel sorry for you.

In our situation Mom refused to make any decisions regarding her estate. She always said "if I die," and I always reminded her that we all will die and that it would help her children if she made some decisions regarding the dispersement of her possessions. I told Mom that's what she should do, but she refused to acknowledge that she would ever die.

Do we have the same mother?
We might be brother and sister.

 

[Beach Runner]

Do we have the same mother?
We might be brother and sister.

Are you the one who pulled up in a pickup truck, ready to load it up with her possessions, when Mom downsized her home?


Hey, bro!

 

[30ABandMan]

Are you the one who pulled up in a pickup truck, ready to load it up with her possessions, when Mom downsized her home?


Hey, bro!

Hell, I think we're all related then! While all of g'maw's kids were making arrangements at the funeral home, a cousin of mine was caught at her house trying to load up all of her furniture. Said that my grandmother had "promised" it her 5 y/o daughter.

The sad thing is that these are well off people squabbling over what any other person would consider junk.

I have stayed away but you can bet I get blow by blow details from my sister.

It is sad but not surprising.

 

[Beach Runner]

Hell, I think we're all related then! While all of g'maw's kids were making arrangements at the funeral home, a cousin of mine was caught at her house trying to load up all of her furniture. Said that my grandmother had "promised" it her 5 y/o daughter.

The sad thing is that these are well off people squabbling over what any other person would consider junk.

I have stayed away but you can bet I get blow by blow details from my sister.

It is sad but not surprising.

I hear ya. When Daddy died, his brother stole documents that proved Daddy had paid back his brother and mother some money he had borrowed from them to open two new businesses. They asked Mom to pay them again and threatened to sue her. Somehow the trustee for the estate caused that not to happen -- don't remember -- off at college. Mom was so mad that she didn't speak to Daddy's family for years.

Mother told brother and his wife that they could have her dining room furniture some day. They assumed she meant when she moved into a smaller retirement home. They pulled up with a truck, ready to take it away. Mom needed that furniture for the new house. She said no. Since she's been in the assisted-living facility (haven't sold the house yet because we were waiting for the market to get better), he has asked for her car, her refrigerator, and even her washer and dryer for his brother-in-law! Sister was . Sister said no.

 

[30ABandMan]

It is all about birth right and the truth is, my gmaw has nothing and these peeps are very comfy. Just funny to see them smilin' to one another's face and stabbing one another in the back.

 

[Cheering472]

Goodness what sad stories. Humm...I wonder if I should avoid the rush and go to mothers now to put post-it notes on the things I want. ;-) All kidding aside I am sorry for your loss.

 

[scooterbug44]

Scooterbro and I lost a lot of respect for our aunt because of her behavior & greed. We both decided we would rather lose out on material goods than lower ourselves to that level of squabbling over stuff.

Freaking ridonkulous for people to behave that way - even more so when they aren't in dire straits or needing the items or funds.

 

[dgsevier]

I hear ya. When Daddy died, his brother stole documents that proved Daddy had paid back his brother and mother some money he had borrowed from them to open two new businesses. They asked Mom to pay them again and threatened to sue her. Somehow the trustee for the estate caused that not to happen -- don't remember -- off at college. Mom was so mad that she didn't speak to Daddy's family for years.

Mother told brother and his wife that they could have her dining room furniture some day. They assumed she meant when she moved into a smaller retirement home. They pulled up with a truck, ready to take it away. Mom needed that furniture for the new house. She said no. Since she's been in the assisted-living facility (haven't sold the house yet because we were waiting for the market to get better), he has asked for her car, her refrigerator, and even her washer and dryer for his brother-in-law! Sister was . Sister said no.

And I thought we were a jacked-up family!!!

You win...

And the prize is,









YEARS OF THERAPY AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE!!!!!!!!