Anyone seen the "Meltdown on 30A"?

[Bob]

for those folks without dead people's money or not taking pensions and entitlements,understand that people are struggling. with this crucible, comes the dynamic of silence or meltdowns.

 

[Lake View Too]

for those folks without dead people's money or not taking pensions and entitlements,understand that people are struggling. with this crucible, comes the dynamic of silence or meltdowns.

Wow, look who's getting oh so heavy now...everybody's a frigging philosopher these days...what ever happen to fart jokes?

 

[Sheila]

I honestly thought, about 40,000 posts ago on this thread, that Alpha Crab got trapped behind a slow moving snowbird on 30-A and passed them on the bike path.

Guess not. For some reason, I am really jonesing for a grilled cheese right now!

Sometimes a state of utter confusion is comforting. Peace out!

 

[AnaEdwardsPhotography]

MAYBE...everyone has gotten the things off their chest that have been bothering them, myself included. Maybe some of the new people, myself included, understand a little more that many of you have obviously been together a very long time and totally get each others sense of humor. Maybe ya'll can think back to when you were the new person, trying to understand the 'old people' here...?

This forum IS an excellent source of information on so many subjects. I quote ya'll all the time in conversations with my clients and friends. I read your posts almost every night, as I'm sure do so many others, sometimes shocked, almost always amused, for one reason or another.

There are diverse personalities here, which is what makes it such interesting reading.

I've been in business for myself exactly thirty years this week, first as a salon owner/hairstylist, then as a professional photographer. Four years ago, I completed my bachelor's degree in psychology (Cum Laude), just to fall back on if needed. All these fields require the ability to get along with all personality types, which I have and do every day of my life.

However, being online provides a 'screen'...a safety barrier...which allows us to be a little more assertive than if we were in person during these discussions. The screen is thicker when you're talking to someone you've never met, and maybe never will meet in person.

My natural reaction is to defend a person who is the underdog, no matter what the situation. I pride myself on NOT being able to be mean-spirited...it just doesn't come naturally to me, and I'm totally fine with that . My daughter, on the other hand, can cuss you out at the drop of a hat...not sure how she learned that. Some people just have that gift.

I know that Brenda has rambled on and on and ranted here, which can be a bit annoying (sorry, Brenda), but even though I've never met her I would bet she's one of the nicest people you could ever find. She's obviously got a huge heart and would give a total stranger anything she had to help them. I have no idea how old she is, but I picture her as being a mature woman (like me who probably doesn't have much online experience.
Ya'll must surely must know this forum is very unique in it's nature...especially the political posts, which I read occasionally, but honestly I leave politics to those who research and follow the politicians enough to make good decisions. I've voted twice in my fifty years: when I was twenty and my union boss fiance gave me a list of who to vote for (I know...so embarrassing to admit), and in the last election I voted against Obama. I'll leave the politics to those of you who do your research.

But the other threads are so full of valuable information that I truly appreciate, so I will continue to read them as often as possible. I enjoy all the banter among friends whose skins are thick enough to withstand the abuse, but perhaps some unspoken rules about being easy on the newcomers would be a plus.

All that being said, aside from the fact that SWGB was so hard on me on my very first post here...I do think it's been a little boring without his posts on here. I guess that means it's human nature to be amused by even the most assertive of online personalities. But maybe being a little tolerant and forgiving of those of us who unknowingly jump into the fire would be a plus for the forum.

After all, surely ya'll want new blood every now and then... ?! There are some very fascinating people who read this forum who might just add something every now and then if they didn't feel so threatened, I'm sure.

 

[Alicia Leonard]

MAYBE...everyone has gotten the things off their chest that have been bothering them, myself included. Maybe some of the new people, myself included, understand a little more that many of you have obviously been together a very long time and totally get each others sense of humor. Maybe ya'll can think back to when you were the new person, trying to understand the 'old people' here...?

This forum IS an excellent source of information on so many subjects. I quote ya'll all the time in conversations with my clients and friends. I read your posts almost every night, as I'm sure do so many others, sometimes shocked, almost always amused, for one reason or another.

There are diverse personalities here, which is what makes it such interesting reading.

I've been in business for myself exactly thirty years this week, first as a salon owner/hairstylist, then as a professional photographer. Four years ago, I completed my bachelor's degree in psychology (Cum Laude), just to fall back on if needed. All these fields require the ability to get along with all personality types, which I have and do every day of my life.

However, being online provides a 'screen'...a safety barrier...which allows us to be a little more assertive than if we were in person during these discussions. The screen is thicker when you're talking to someone you've never met, and maybe never will meet in person.

My natural reaction is to defend a person who is the underdog, no matter what the situation. I pride myself on NOT being able to be mean-spirited...it just doesn't come naturally to me, and I'm totally fine with that . My daughter, on the other hand, can cuss you out at the drop of a hat...not sure how she learned that. Some people just have that gift.

I know that Brenda has rambled on and on and ranted here, which can be a bit annoying (sorry, Brenda), but even though I've never met her I would bet she's one of the nicest people you could ever find. She's obviously got a huge heart and would give a total stranger anything she had to help them. I have no idea how old she is, but I picture her as being a mature woman (like me who probably doesn't have much online experience.
Ya'll must surely must know this forum is very unique in it's nature...especially the political posts, which I read occasionally, but honestly I leave politics to those who research and follow the politicians enough to make good decisions. I've voted twice in my fifty years: when I was twenty and my union boss fiance gave me a list of who to vote for (I know...so embarrassing to admit), and in the last election I voted against Obama. I'll leave the politics to those of you who do your research.

But the other threads are so full of valuable information that I truly appreciate, so I will continue to read them as often as possible. I enjoy all the banter among friends whose skins are thick enough to withstand the abuse, but perhaps some unspoken rules about being easy on the newcomers would be a plus.

All that being said, aside from the fact that SWGB was so hard on me on my very first post here...I do think it's been a little boring without his posts on here. I guess that means it's human nature to be amused by even the most assertive of online personalities. But maybe being a little tolerant and forgiving of those of us who unknowingly jump into the fire would be a plus for the forum.

After all, surely ya'll want new blood every now and then... ?! There are some very fascinating people who read this forum who might just add something every now and then if they didn't feel so threatened, I'm sure.

Nice post, Ana.

 

[kitlit]

MAYBE...everyone has gotten the things off their chest that have been bothering them, myself included. Maybe some of the new people, myself included, understand a little more that many of you have obviously been together a very long time and totally get each others sense of humor. Maybe ya'll can think back to when you were the new person, trying to understand the 'old people' here...?

This forum IS an excellent source of information on so many subjects. I quote ya'll all the time in conversations with my clients and friends. I read your posts almost every night, as I'm sure do so many others, sometimes shocked, almost always amused, for one reason or another.

There are diverse personalities here, which is what makes it such interesting reading.

I've been in business for myself exactly thirty years this week, first as a salon owner/hairstylist, then as a professional photographer. Four years ago, I completed my bachelor's degree in psychology (Cum Laude), just to fall back on if needed. All these fields require the ability to get along with all personality types, which I have and do every day of my life.

However, being online provides a 'screen'...a safety barrier...which allows us to be a little more assertive than if we were in person during these discussions. The screen is thicker when you're talking to someone you've never met, and maybe never will meet in person.

My natural reaction is to defend a person who is the underdog, no matter what the situation. I pride myself on NOT being able to be mean-spirited...it just doesn't come naturally to me, and I'm totally fine with that . My daughter, on the other hand, can cuss you out at the drop of a hat...not sure how she learned that. Some people just have that gift.

I know that Brenda has rambled on and on and ranted here, which can be a bit annoying (sorry, Brenda), but even though I've never met her I would bet she's one of the nicest people you could ever find. She's obviously got a huge heart and would give a total stranger anything she had to help them. I have no idea how old she is, but I picture her as being a mature woman (like me who probably doesn't have much online experience.
Ya'll must surely must know this forum is very unique in it's nature...especially the political posts, which I read occasionally, but honestly I leave politics to those who research and follow the politicians enough to make good decisions. I've voted twice in my fifty years: when I was twenty and my union boss fiance gave me a list of who to vote for (I know...so embarrassing to admit), and in the last election I voted against Obama. I'll leave the politics to those of you who do your research.

But the other threads are so full of valuable information that I truly appreciate, so I will continue to read them as often as possible. I enjoy all the banter among friends whose skins are thick enough to withstand the abuse, but perhaps some unspoken rules about being easy on the newcomers would be a plus.

All that being said, aside from the fact that SWGB was so hard on me on my very first post here...I do think it's been a little boring without his posts on here. I guess that means it's human nature to be amused by even the most assertive of online personalities. But maybe being a little tolerant and forgiving of those of us who unknowingly jump into the fire would be a plus for the forum.

After all, surely ya'll want new blood every now and then... ?! There are some very fascinating people who read this forum who might just add something every now and then if they didn't feel so threatened, I'm sure.

I'm sorry. Ana, Alicia is correct that your post above is thoughtful and well-worded. But, at the risk of prolonging this God-forsaken thread any further, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you.

I think that the problem is this "Us v. Them" mentality that everyone has suddenly developed. I see all of you sticking up for posts that you know YOU could've done without reading simply because you think someone's picking on the new kid. That's ridiculous! I'm not new here, I've been a member for 4 or 5 years, and a lurker for a few before that. But you'll notice my post count is only about a 100 posts higher than say, HeartBren's, even though I've got a couple years on her. (I assure you, I'm not saying this to single her out, but she is--evidently--the reason for this crazy thread.)

Being "new" on this forum is a relative term, directly coinciding with how much you put yourself out there. Now, you, I think of as a newcomer. You've only got a handful of posts and, to be honest, I've maybe only ACTUALLY seen about three of them. I welcome you! I welcome HeartBren--who I, and several other SoWallers I know have actually met in person-- I think she's lovely. That doesn't mean that I'm not going to point out when I think she's in the wrong, just as I would do, and HAVE done, with SWGB or Scooterbug or Kurt or any of the others (love you guys, but we all know that we post some stupid stuff sometimes. It happens. :roll

The point is that nobody--let me repeat that, NOBODY--is sitting around thinking, "Hmmm. What can we do to torture the newbies today?" :scratch:

We don't look at your post count before we respond, and adjust our responses accordingly. I know that when I read a post that resonates with me, in a good OR bad way, my brain is usually already formulating a response before I even notice who posted it. As Scooterbug said earlier, if you post things, you're going to get a response. If you post enough of the same response (as, unfortunately, HeartBren has done here--I glanced back over the posts from the last few days and found around 17 posts where she made herself a victim when the intent of the original post was a joke, or was not even directed towards her, or her posts were out and out inflammatory, even going so far as to call another poster an ass (she did, of course, use asterisks to do this). Now, I'm sorry, but you get out of forums what you put into them. Perhaps this is an opportunity to remind all of us about that.

But, more likely, it will serve as a reminder that we all need to take a deep breath before responding to a post, and to read each post in the spirit that it was intended, rather than as "fightin' words". Because the purpose of the lounge is to lighten up, laugh, and have a good time! If you're unsure of the sense of humor of a certain poster, perhaps you should hang back a few posts and see how others respond to him/her. Or, as the rest of us do, just dive right in and recognize that this is a free-for-all, and we're all a little confused sometimes (ahem. More frequently than most of us will admit... )

Just my .02... Carry on...

 

[Teresa]

maybe new folks need to review rules of the forum. personal attacks are not allowed. if you do not agree with the content of a discussion you can respectfully respond with your ideas, or you can move on quietly to another discussion. if you find a playful discussion,, you can play along or you can move along. I am sad to see such a funn thread become attacked by 3 people who have absolutely no clue whatsoever.

 

[heartbren]

Mess!

What a mess! Anyone notice what a beautiful day it is outside? Listen, I was asked to give it a rest and I did. Since my last post yesterday evening, which was on a lighter note, this is going on without me. Actually different people have chimed in after all of this time. I thought we were letting this die so we could go on as it used to be. I think instead of naming names and pointing fingers, we should do what we all live here for, enjoying the beauty and the friendliness of the friendly peole here. I certainly don't want any enemies and have tried several times to change the subject in this forum so why can't we al do the same. Sometimes I wonder if others actually enjoy this.

I am so afraid I will say a wrong word it is hard to say anything. Let's just let it die here. Even apologizing does not work on here. I'm going out to play and if ya'll want to sit here and keep this moving as it is and, yes sometimes have fun at my expense, by all means continue. I have nothing else negative to say and would like to get back to the way it used to be before all of this started. Please, don't blame me or anyone else for this, that is part of the problem not the solution. Have a great day everyone!

 

[GoodWitch58]

maybe new folks need to review rules of the forum. personal attacks are not allowed. if you do not agree with the content of a discussion you can respectfully respond with your ideas, or you can move on quietly to another discussion. if you find a playful discussion,, you can play along or you can move along. I am sad to see such a funn thread become attacked by 3 people who have absolutely no clue whatsoever.

I think reviewing the rules once in awhile is a good thing.

 

[Douglas the Intrepid]

Okay, I can't stand it any longer! On the way home from work tonight I am stopping at publix and picking up some sharp cheddar and butter make some grilled cheese sandwiches to go with the amazing split pea soup I made last night! Mmmmmmmm