Chickpea said:
I always feel really bad about that combination of poor food but good service because you never ever want to punish the hard working waiters and waitresses for food but you somehow want to send a message to management. Anyone out there know how one can do that without cutting back on tipping??
<VERY DIPLOMATICALLY> ask your waiter to send over the manager, tell the manager you're disappointed in the food and give them specifics (but don't wait until you finish the entire meal). The manager should offer to redo the meal--then it is up to you to either say yes or no. If you say yes, the manager should offer some sort of consolation for the bother (wine, dessert, cut in price). If you say no, and eat the food, the manager should again offer you some sort of consolation (a dessert, wine, or cut in price). If you refuse to either eat the food or re-order the food, the manager should strike the cost from the bill and maybe offer some type of gift certificate. You may want to offer a "suggestion" as to what would be reasonable compensation for your ruined evening. (Tip the waiter accordingly if you believe they deserve it.)
It is important that you keep your conversation with the staff as private and polite as possible--if you start ranting and raving, you've lost your edge with the staff and with the diners around you.
If the manager is not forthcoming, ask for the name of the owner and the names of the people involved. Send the owner a detailed letter and give specific facts of the problem with the food and/or service. Again, suggest a reasonable compensation for your trouble if you feel it is necessary. The owner should be tickled pink that you gave them the opportunity to know what their customers think--especially if you are a local in the SoWal area (the lifeblood of these places when the tourists go away for the winter).
This is especially true for places with entrees that are in the $19-$35 range...but just as important for the "chain" places.
For example, we once went to the Red Lobster in Ft Walton Beach for lunch (we've eaten there before and have had very good food and service for lunch) and were put at a table with a "trainee" who essentially gave us water, took our order and disappeared into a black hole. After several attempts to have other staff find this guy, he appeared with our salads--and went back to his cave. After a reasonable wait, we summoned the manager, but after 5 minutes they didn't appear. We got up and went to the front desk where the Assistant Manager was hanging out checking people in. We told them the problem and said we were leaving. They apologized profusely and offered us $20 in gift certificates. We said, "no thanks, that's alright," I told her "I know these things happen with trainees, I just want you pass along the situation to the staff so they know not to allow this to happen to another diner." We turned around and walked out and the Asst Manager ran up to us as we were pulling out of the parking lot and said, "Here's $30 (!) in certificates, please come back and let us make this up to you!" Again, we thanked her and refused the offer--did we go back? Absolutely! (and it was a good experience). Did we tell others about it? --- I just did.