Baby to be!

[FuBar-funn]

They took some blood then ended up giving her a shot that is a shot against rejecting a fetus. Something to do with blood type incompatibility. Her blood type is positive and if the blood type of the baby is negative, that can be a problem. Turns out her aunt on her mom's side had a blood type incompatibility which caused her to have a miscarriage. I too had the blood type incompatibility between myself and my son. I had to receive that shot after having him. Anytime DIL is pregnant now, she will have to have that shot! Too bad she didn't think of this earlier in the pregnancy so she could have gotten this shot with the one just lost. Might have made a difference in the outcome.

Lady--Most likely they gave her that shot to protect her for the next time. I too was RH negative and had to have this when I was pregnant w/ Camden, when I was in the hospital about to have him, and again when after delivery. They told me that when you are RH negative the first pregnancy is not in danger, but any pregnancy after that your body will attack the fetus and treat it like it would any illness. I am so sorry for your family's loss. These things are so hard because many times there is no explanation. You are in my prayers.

 

[ktmeadows]

To this day I see the children of friends of mine who were pregnant at the same times I was and wonder how my life would have been blessed by having a child of that age.

I know what you mean, BR. After nine months of pregnancy and anticipation, my sister gave birth to a stillborn baby boy 29 years ago. It was so awful; I'll never forget that day. I was pregnant at the same time and gave birth to a healthy baby boy four months later. I'm sure as my son grew up she was continuously reminded of her own baby boy. She has been such a wonderful aunt to my son and has always treated him extra special. To this day we all still remember her son's birthday as well. But I know she sometimes sees my son and thinks of what might have been.

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Mango]

I know what you mean, BR. After nine months of pregnancy and anticipation, my sister gave birth to a stillborn baby boy 29 years ago. It was so awful; I'll never forget that day. I was pregnant at the same time and gave birth to a healthy baby boy four months later. I'm sure as my son grew up she was continuously reminded of her own baby boy. She has been such a wonderful aunt to my son and has always treated him extra special. To this day we all still remember her son's birthday as well. But I know she sometimes sees my son and thinks of what might have been.

Sorry for your loss.

I too understand that. Ten years ago I delivered at 26 weeks, and back then, they didn't have the pre-natal care they have now for preemies, so our son didn't make it. I also have chronic Lyme disease, and even though I was being treated and felt somewhat ok, I am sure it was the cause of early delivery. My neighbor had a little boy 2 months later, and it took a long time to not get melancholy when I saw him. Everyone tells you it was meant to be, but at the time, you don't feel that way. You never forget, but it does get easier over time.

I feel differently now. I have nephews who I am close with, but one especially, who my sister says she had for me because he and I are two peas in a pod. He has mild autism and when he was 2,and wasn't speaking yet, and we started getting therapies for him, I was involved every step of the way.
I like to think that had I had my own children, I probably may not have had the same impact. He just started kindergarten last week, and he talks up a storm and is quite social. Something that 3 years ago, we thought was not a possibility. So I like to think that maybe there is some higher power that has a different plan for us.

 

[DD]

I too understand that. Ten years ago I delivered at 26 weeks, and back then, they didn't have the pre-natal care they have now for preemies, so our son didn't make it. I also have chronic Lyme disease, and even though I was being treated and felt somewhat ok, I am sure it was the cause of early delivery. My neighbor had a little boy 2 months later, and it took a long time to not get melancholy when I saw him. Everyone tells you it was meant to be, but at the time, you don't feel that way. You never forget, but it does get easier over time.

I feel differently now. I have nephews who I am close with, but one especially, who my sister says she had for me because he and I are two peas in a pod. He has mild autism and when he was 2,and wasn't speaking yet, and we started getting therapies for him, I was involved every step of the way.
I like to think that had I had my own children, I probably may not have had the same impact. He just started kindergarten last week, and he talks up a storm and is quite social. Something that 3 years ago, we thought was not a possibility. So I like to think that maybe there is some higher power that has a different plan for us.

 

[Lady D]

Good to hear that she is in better spirits today and they are talking about trying again. In the meantime, she should keep taking her
pre-natal vitamins.
Did they ever find out what was causing her gall bladder to act up? 21 seems very young to have gallbladder problems. Perhaps when she is feeling up to it, she may want to go see a specialist.

She is still taking them. She is going to keep on taking them. She has been seeing a specialist for that I believe. I questioned that in my son as to the diagnosis of the gallbladder problem. I am wondering if alot of her hurting on and off was not her gallbladder but this other!!! I would say if she totally experiences no more hurting spells than it may have never been her gallbladder but this other! But I am not a doctor! Only time will tell that if those pains continue!

 

[TooFarTampa]

Hugs to you Mango.

 

[audie]

i am so sorry to hear this lady - will be thinking of you and your family

 

[ktmeadows]

I too understand that. Ten years ago I delivered at 26 weeks, and back then, they didn't have the pre-natal care they have now for preemies, so our son didn't make it. I also have chronic Lyme disease, and even though I was being treated and felt somewhat ok, I am sure it was the cause of early delivery. My neighbor had a little boy 2 months later, and it took a long time to not get melancholy when I saw him. Everyone tells you it was meant to be, but at the time, you don't feel that way. You never forget, but it does get easier over time.

I feel differently now. I have nephews who I am close with, but one especially, who my sister says she had for me because he and I are two peas in a pod. He has mild autism and when he was 2,and wasn't speaking yet, and we started getting therapies for him, I was involved every step of the way.
I like to think that had I had my own children, I probably may not have had the same impact. He just started kindergarten last week, and he talks up a storm and is quite social. Something that 3 years ago, we thought was not a possibility. So I like to think that maybe there is some higher power that has a different plan for us.

I think you're right, Mango. Your little nephew is lucky to have such a wonderful aunt!

 

[Lady D]

i am so sorry to hear this lady - will be thinking of you and your family

Thanks audie, I sure was looking forward to the little one. I was out the other night looking at the tiny baby clothes, baby beds, and looking at how I could arrange stuff in my son's room to make room for a baby bed or playpen so I could keep the baby some! Hope there are plenty more opportunities. Even though my husband and I never had any kids together, I think he would have had alot of fun being a step-granddad! He constantly laughs at cute babies on tv!