Dating

[Carol G]

I am taking this seriously, and I think aleonard's post is spot on, but I read this sentence really fast:

Moving too fast is another and thats why my bells went off after reading NoHalls post.

and read the word "balls" instead of "bells" and it confused the heck out of me for a moment, until I read it again.

Oy, thanks for the laugh, I needed it! And now back to the serious topic at hand...

 

[sunspotbaby]

It's about control as well as delusional psychosis. Most stalkers have personality disorders to start with and becoming overly possessive after a first date is a major red flag. Moving too fast is another and thats why my bells went off after reading NoHalls post.

Someone earlier said something about trusting your gut and I firmly believe in it. I also have a friend who imparted a little wisdom to me after he worked as an assistant District Attorney in New York and New Orleans. He said, "Be careful AL, anyone can pretend to be normal for six months, after that, you start seeing the real person."

Good Advice indeed!

 

[seagrovegirl]

I got lucky.......I knew my husband for 3 1/2 months when we got married. We've been married almost 2 years and I would marry him again in a minute!!! eHarmony......................it works.

 

[NoHall]

It's about control as well as delusional psychosis. Most stalkers have personality disorders to start with and becoming overly possessive after a first date is a major red flag. Moving too fast is another and thats why my bells went off after reading NoHalls post.

Someone earlier said something about trusting your gut and I firmly believe in it. I also have a friend who imparted a little wisdom to me after he worked as an assistant District Attorney in New York and New Orleans. He said, "Be careful AL, anyone can pretend to be normal for six months, after that, you start seeing the real person."

Good words...

I got lucky.......I knew my husband for 3 1/2 months when we got married. We've been married almost 2 years and I would marry him again in a minute!!! eHarmony......................it works.

My parents were engaged in 9 weeks and married in 5 months. That was 42 years ago. As efficient as that sounds, they obviously had an exceptional situation. (And they met through a group of mutual friends!)

eHarmony works for some people. I had someone sign me up on Match.com, and it creeped me out, too. I think my network is better than either of theirs, anyway.

 

[scooterbug44]

Some mega red flags from Saturday's nuclear disaster:

What would your response be if after a year, your boyfriend said "If you really loved me, you'd get my name tattooed on you." ? (Apparently my answer of "the suitcase is in the hall closet " was charming.)

What if your boyfriend wanted you to call every day at 5 p.m. and check in? Then referenced the movie Casino where DeNiro gives Sharon Stone a beeper she has to answer w/in 5 mins OR ELSE.

Then there was the charming anecdote about him putting beer in his non-drinking Baptist friend's coke just to be an arse.

Seriously, you can't make this sheet up!

P.S. That guy WAS from Eharmony (There's no way I would have gone out w/ a guy like that if I'd met him in person). Makes me severely question the Chemistry.com advertising campaign criticizing their high rate of rejection.

 

[Mango]

He said, "Be careful AL, anyone can pretend to be normal for six months, after that, you start seeing the real person."

I couldn't last 6 months.

 

[NoHall]

Some mega red flags from Saturday's nuclear disaster:

What would your response be if after a year, your boyfriend said "If you really loved me, you'd get my name tattooed on you." ? (Apparently my answer of "the suitcase is in the hall closet " was charming.)

What if your boyfriend wanted you to call every day at 5 p.m. and check in? Then referenced the movie Casino where DeNiro gives Sharon Stone a beeper she has to answer w/in 5 mins OR ELSE.

Then there was the charming anecdote about him putting beer in his non-drinking Baptist friend's coke just to be an arse.

Seriously, you can't make this sheet up!

Scooterbug...we need to find you one of the nice, smart ones. Seriously...

 

[Cheering472]

I got lucky.......I knew my husband for 3 1/2 months when we got married. We've been married almost 2 years and I would marry him again in a minute!!! eHarmony......................it works.

Aww sweet story Seagrovegirl. I know eharmony has alot of success.

But let me share my funny story. I have a coworker that was filling out her eHarmony questionnaire. She said "I don't want anyone from Russia, they can be scary...hello...Hitler". :funn: When she was trying to determine which choice of religion best suited her she ruled out Protestant as she said " I believe in God I'm not protesting Him". I think she gave up and met someone in a bar.

 

[Alicia Leonard]

I couldn't last 6 months.

Amen......Hon, I have problems assimilating into normal society for an hour. What you see is what you get with me.

I find that punching a man in the arm on a first date to be a good way to tell which way the wind blows.

If he whines........no second date.
If he hits you back and knocks you down, no second date.
If he files assault charges.....no second date
If he taps you back and grins.......good sign or if he rubs his arm and smiles like,"What a woman." second date material as well.

 

[NoHall]

Amen......Hon, I have problems assimilating into normal society for an hour. What you see is what you get with me.

I find that punching a man in the arm on a first date to be a good way to tell which way the wind blows.

If he whines........no second date.
If he hits you back and knocks you down, no second date.
If he files assault charges.....no second date
If he taps you back and grins.......good sign or if he rubs his arm and smiles like,"What a woman." second date material as well.

We need more useful advice like this! Bravo!