Dilemma ~ Advice please ~Thanks

[Ocean Lover]

Unfortunately just because X lives across the street does not mean the two girls will automatically be friends. When Sam was about lil ibd's age she had a friend that lived very close to us. They had a few playdates that never really ended well. I would ask Sam what happened and she would say...so and so hit me or so and so told me I was a brat. I realized it wasn't a healthy friendship and her parents were a little rough around the edges also. Some kids are just plain mean. I know it's hard to understand for those of us with really sweet kids..ones that wouldn't say a cross word for anything. And then even harder for them. I'm sure lil ibd will find some great friends at school that will be a better match for her sweet personality. Good luck with the whole situation and keep us informed.

If it is a medical issue I hope the parents are looking into it. I have a BIL that has Type 2 diabetes and if he gets low you better watch out. At least now we usually can figure out why he's being so billigerent and acting like a you know what. It hasn't happened many times but when it does it's scary.

 

[Ocean Lover]

Little X needs an attitude adjustment. I prefer a taser or shock collar for quick results

We are talking about children here not dogs. Play nice or take your toys and go home.

 

[SHELLY]

How old are the children?

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[sunspotbaby]

Little X needs an attitude adjustment. I prefer a taser or shock collar for quick results

You have a very twisted sense of humor... love it!

 

[Minnie]

Sorry to say with girls, this is just the beginning. To this day my daughter still gets hurt by her female acquaintances. I refuse to call them friends, as friends do not act like that.

Talk to the Mom, about the medical condition. Try to take little IBD out of the position of authority for right now, instead of her putting up the chalk, you go out and explain, here comes the bus, give me the chalk and you girls get ready to go. If she directly defies you then this may be more trouble than you want to deal with.

Also if possible have a couple of other girls over to play, so there is not just little IBD and X, to see how X reacts to them.

And as Scooter said she may not be discplined at home and if that is the case, her Mom is not going to see anything wrong and you will probably have to look for another playmate for little IBD.

Good luck to both you and little IBD, its a hard life sometimes and we can all try to say well it does not matter, but hurt feelings are real.

 

[scooterbug44]

Hypoglycemia isn't some life crippling disease - just requires a little more attention to your diet, especially in extreme situations.

This kid isn't in need of a juice box or granola bar between meals or because of lots of activity, just a reality check and some discipline to combat her brattiness!

 

[Matt J]

I don't know about adding girls to the mix, that's like going from pre-algebra to trig. Growing up my sister had about 4 friends all on the same street. This was non-stop drama that to this day I would need a chart and decoder ring to keep track of. It seemed that 2-3 girls were constantly ganging up on another for no apparent reason.

At any rate based on the info given it sounds like a spoiled brat with anger control issues. I would speak with the mother, but don't expect any miracles.

 

[Minnie]

I don't know about adding girls to the mix, that's like going from pre-algebra to trig. Growing up my sister had about 4 friends all on the same street. This was non-stop drama that to this day I would need a chart and decoder ring to keep track of. It seemed that 2-3 girls were constantly ganging up on another for no apparent reason.

At any rate based on the info given it sounds like a spoiled brat with anger control issues. I would speak with the mother, but don't expect any miracles.

When I taught Elementary school I had one girl in my class that played great in a group, just did not do well one on one, when it was one on one she was always a bully but in a group situation, she lost that ability to control.

With girls it is trial and error.

 

[tistheseason]

I agree that the hypoglycemic excuse doesn't sit well. Did they send the girl back over to appologize after she had a snack???

Unfortunately I don't have a lot of advice. But you are making me thankful that I have little boys!

 

[Mango]

The little friend may not understand social cues very well and y'all are getting to know her still. She might have been nervous to ask for a snack and just ran back home where it was where she was used to having the snack. Some kids who don't get social cues either get angry or confused at transitioning from one thing to the next, like ending play and then getting on the bus. If she has these issues, usually mothers get involved when their child meets a new one who they will spend time with, especially with getting off to school, but maybe she doesn't want to make people aware right away and will intervene when there is a problem.

Just raising it because some people do not recognize kids who are on the spectrum and the issues they have. My nephew had these issues. he would get angry when he was involved with something and had to end it, but he always had respect for elders when told to do something. Parents less, though. :roll: He's learned to work that out in counseling. Still has some issues, but much less.

And then, she could just want her way all the time and be unruly when she doesn't get it, which is probably the case.