Aw, it would break his heart. But I can sure think it, and do a lot!!!!! :funn:...does that mean STFU is not acceptable?
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...does that mean STFU is not acceptable?
only if said with the utmost of respect and
;-) 
Originally Posted by Miss Kitty [ame="http://www.sowal.com/bb/showthread.php?p=295045#post295045"]
...does that mean STFU is not acceptable?only if said with the utmost of respect and
;-) 
25 years this November -
- No name calling
- And NEVER say "shut up" to one another
And it helps that Mr. JR has an awesome sense of humor!!
You are right Johnrudy, no husband and wife should do this to each other. But unfortunately my husband and I both are guilty of both of the above. But I vowed after the last time that I would never say either one again. Makes me feel guilty. Don't know about him.
Other than that, I'd say we get along very well. The things I feel make a successful marriage:
1. Having many of the same interests. I knew when I started dating my husband we had many things in common where interests were concerned, we both liked Tennis, and both had alot of the same music tastes.
2. After 14 years of marriage, and being together almost 17 years total, I've learned how to overlook his bad habits. Can't really ignore them totally but try.
3. Make sure you show them and tell them on a daily basis how much you love them and appreciate them.
4. We have different tastes somewhat as to the type of things we like to watch on tv so two separate rooms with cable is a must in our house, however, we do watch some things together. I like a lot of college sports and detective shows, ghost story shows, etc., which he doesn't watch and he likes a lot of the TV Land shows like Andy Griffith so I spend my tv watching time in the den. Nice also if I want to sit and read.
5. Since my husband is not a social person and doesn't care for going out to eat in restaurants, on occasion, I find time to go do things with others like walking with a lady friend, and going out to eat either once a month, or on one of our birthdays, with the ladies at my work. And he does encourage me to go out with my parents and eat on Sundays that he works, which I have started doing.
He's a great guy, and handsome also. I love him very much.
He might make me mad sometimes but I get over it. I couldn't stand living without him though. 
And he would do anything in the world for me, except go eat in a nice, crowded restaurant. 
And as for the separate bathroom issue, we do have two bathrooms, but only one bath and shower, so that has to be shared. And the separate closets isn't an issue but I do have our clothes in two different closests as we have so many clothes between us.
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After going on 28 years of marital bliss it's funny how we're still so opposite sometimes. Open communication is a real biggie. Respect is another really biggie. Forgiveness and compassion. Unconditional .
Little things mean a lot too. Like fixin' each other tea and coffee. Lettin' the wife put her corner of the sheet on first always
Now that is sweetness.;-) I am a lucky gull. Can't forget doin' funn stuff like takin' trips together, especially to laid back beaches like in sowal.
.Little things mean a lot too. Like fixin' each other tea and coffee. Lettin' the wife put her corner of the sheet on first always
Now that is sweetness.;-) I am a lucky gull. Can't forget doin' funn stuff like takin' trips together, especially to laid back beaches like in sowal.
After going on 28 years of marital bliss it's funny how we're still so opposite sometimes. Open communication is a real biggie. Respect is another really biggie. Forgiveness and compassion. Unconditional
Little things mean a lot too. Like fixin' each other tea and coffee. Lettin' the wife put her corner of the sheet on first always
Communication and respect are important to me also. We may not be the best at communicating and there have been past issues with respect, but that has changed between us. I enjoy the trips we get to take together, even if it is only every other year. And you don't know how much you miss them until they are gone for a few weeks like when he was in Germany. We talked every day. Little things do mean a lot, like him even thinking of me when out getting him something to eat, I come home to find something here for me after work.
I'll give it a shot...(kinda long)...
Married 21 years.
The best advice we ever got was from an older family friend when she told us: People say that marriage is a 50/50 proposition. That's not true. Sometimes it is a 0/100.
And despite what some might say in today's wacko society... that's ok. Just make sure you can give in when you need to and your pride doesn't prevent you from compromising.
Don't expect to get your way all the time, and don't demand it. Try to see the other's point of view.
Don't live together before you get married. Marriage isn't a try before you buy deal. Marry somebody who shares your religious views. Don't expect your spouse to always take your side when it comes to your inlaws. Even if you hate your mother-in-law (and for the record - I don't), figure out a way to respect her as best you can. She is still your spouse's momma.
Last, but certainly not least, make sure you discuss money before you make a marriage commitment. If you are a spender, and she is a saver, you better be sure you can find some common ground. Find out if your prospective mate has any financial "secrets" like $50k in school loans he forgot to mention when you were engaged.
In a nutshell... communicate the good and the bad.
Married 21 years.
The best advice we ever got was from an older family friend when she told us: People say that marriage is a 50/50 proposition. That's not true. Sometimes it is a 0/100.
And despite what some might say in today's wacko society... that's ok. Just make sure you can give in when you need to and your pride doesn't prevent you from compromising.
Don't expect to get your way all the time, and don't demand it. Try to see the other's point of view.
Don't live together before you get married. Marriage isn't a try before you buy deal. Marry somebody who shares your religious views. Don't expect your spouse to always take your side when it comes to your inlaws. Even if you hate your mother-in-law (and for the record - I don't), figure out a way to respect her as best you can. She is still your spouse's momma.
Last, but certainly not least, make sure you discuss money before you make a marriage commitment. If you are a spender, and she is a saver, you better be sure you can find some common ground. Find out if your prospective mate has any financial "secrets" like $50k in school loans he forgot to mention when you were engaged.
In a nutshell... communicate the good and the bad.
That is nice, ladyd. Those thoughtful little things do mean so much. More than he probably even realizes.;-)Communication and respect are important to me also. We may not be the best at communicating and there have been past issues with respect, but that has changed between us. I enjoy the trips we get to take together, even if it is only every other year. And you don't know how much you miss them until they are gone for a few weeks like when he was in Germany. We talked every day. Little things do mean a lot, like him even thinking of me when out getting him something to eat, I come home to find something here for me after work.
It really is the little things...
A couple of weeks ago Mr OL and I were at a middle school football game, it was unseasonably cold and the game was delayed. I had only worn a t-shirt and capri pants. Everyone was freezing. Mr OL had to leave early to go home and get ready for work so we said goodbye for the night. About a half hour later someone says Hey, your hubby is back. He brought me a jacket on his way to work. I was very surprised and I have to say that is probably the nicest, most thoughtful thing he's done for a while.(other than unloading the dishwasher)
Something I really appreciated. I still smile when I think about it.You know, that's something Mr. JR would do too. Along with extra food like ladyd's husband, waiting for me after he's bought his own.It really is the little things...
A couple of weeks ago Mr OL and I were at a middle school football game, it was unseasonably cold and the game was delayed. I had only worn a t-shirt and capri pants. Everyone was freezing. Mr OL had to leave early to go home and get ready for work so we said goodbye for the night. About a half hour later someone says Hey, your hubby is back. He brought me a jacket on his way to work. I was very surprised and I have to say that is probably the nicest, most thoughtful thing he's done for a while.(other than unloading the dishwasher)
But I have to say, the very best thing that he does is...
he vacuums the whole house, even the furniture & baseboards! I don't even know how to change the vacuum bags! :funn:
Love him for that.
You know, that's something Mr. JR would do too. Along with extra food like ladyd's husband, waiting for me after he's bought his own.
But I have to say, the very best thing that he does is...
he vacuums the whole house, even the furniture & baseboards! I don't even know how to change the vacuum bags! :funn:
Love him for that.
Well, mine is off two days during the week now that he is on rotation. He has even started doing some loads of laundry when off. That really surprised me as he has never done that before the past couple of months. I welcome that. Maybe he realized how much I worked at home after coming home from working 8 hours, and decided he would start helping out a little with the laundry. I sure welcome it.
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