yes, allifunn. trust is an important thing to be respected and protected, and it goes both ways. shouldn't be a problem if you maintain an open and loving relationship, as you have done with your teens.
Mango, I do agree with you that we need to give the kids space and to let them make mistakes. I didn't think that I would be one to read their texts or whatever but some of her past behaviors made me rethink that ( trying to date a 25 year old pizza delivery guy when she was 16 for one thing). She can have a level head on her shoulders but she is prone to knee jerk decisions which then take a lot of work to clean up.
I told her the other day that the reason I am being so overbearing right now is that the decisions she makes now will have a farther reaching impact than ever before in her life. She has been working all year on her post graduation plan and I would hate for her to throw that all away to go live in this guy's parent's basement and work for $9 an hour.
Mango, I do agree with you that we need to give the kids space and to let them make mistakes. I didn't think that I would be one to read their texts or whatever but some of her past behaviors made me rethink that ( trying to date a 25 year old pizza delivery guy when she was 16 for one thing). She can have a level head on her shoulders but she is prone to knee jerk decisions which then take a lot of work to clean up.
I told her the other day that the reason I am being so overbearing right now is that the decisions she makes now will have a farther reaching impact than ever before in her life. She has been working all year on her post graduation plan and I would hate for her to throw that all away to go live in this guy's parent's basement and work for $9 an hour.
