Thank you goodwitch for saying things I can't because I get too emotional.
My only son, father of 3 beautiful children , joined the military for all the right reasons: pride in his country and a sense of responsibility to protect it. He has been to the desert 3 times and is now deployed for a year in Korea.
My family has it all on the line, so when "patriots" post hateful statements about this president it takes all I can do to use Option 3.
If they have a loved one defending their right to spit on POTUS and yell crass lowbrow epithets, I'll listen and empathize. Otherwise, I'll try not to reply.
I will say this: My son, and most of his fellow soldiers, feel that this president gives the US dignity and respect. They are proud to serve him.
He proves that the American Dream really exists. You can come from humble beginnings, work hard, and become President of the most wonderful country in the world.
You really are a good witch.
Thanks. I know what you are going through...my son was in Korea, and all over the Middle East and Southwest Asia...and because of the nature of his work, we often had no idea where he was exactly or if he was okay for weeks at the time.
Unless one has had a loved one in the situation , there is no way to understand what parents, spouses, and children go through.
It infuriates me that some people are so holier than thou about "their country, and their support of the troops, and their patriotism..."when they have no idea what real sacrifice is. And the idea that one has to be a conservative or vote Republican and be a Christian to be in the military is insulting.
Often, over the last few years I have found myself in line at the grocery store or the movies...or at a park or on the beach..and the people around me seem so oblivious to what my son and your son and so many others like them are dealing with.
I have had to go to my car and close the windows and turn on the radio and the a/c and just scream: "don't you people know there is a war going on and people are dying?"..and you are worried about the next party--or what to wear the next day--or who the latest pop culture idol is sleeping with! It makes me crazy. So, I do understand how emotional it can be.
I wish safety for your son and peace of mind to his wife and children and to you...Right after 9-11 when my son was deployed and unable to contact me (he was not married at the time) except once in awhile--when he would call we often talked about the beautiful sunsets or sunrises in the desert..I remember once, on Mothers Day 2002, walking along the beach just at sunset and the moon was just coming up too--I was counting the hours that made up the time difference and thinking about him, wondering if he was okay and what he was doing...just at that moment, my cell phone rang and his voice from half a world away said, "Mom...the moon is so beautiful here right now. I can't talk long--but I wondered if you were watching the moon too..."over the years seeing the moon and sun rise and set together and sharing descriptions of a rainbow or a storm via the satellite phone has been the link that connected us.
I find the same attitude toward President Obama with my son's colleagues...they endured many additional difficulties because of the "cowboy" politics of Bush and Cheney--thank God that is over and there is a certain dignity and inclusiveness displayed by our president that was not there before. As you and your family know, it has made a huge difference. Now, hopefully before too much longer, we can end these wars and bring them all home.
And just maybe the Americans who are yelling and screaming and carrying on with all the name calling --not in a locked car with the radio blaring--but blaring themselves all over the airwaves, will go off somewhere and watch a sunset and think about just what they are (not) contributing to peace on the planet and then, have a change of behavior. We can only hope.
In the meantime on this Board I, too, use Option 3--most of the time, to do anything else is a waste of effort. Sometimes, though, I find that I simply can not let the attitudes stand. I feel I owe it to our men and women in uniform and all the others who work so hard and endure so much on our behalf. Even if it makes no difference to the posters here, I feel better for having taken a stand. And so many have written or called or emailed kind words, so I am glad that I was able to write something that touched a positive place for you.
Have a good evening and I hope you get to talk with your son soon.
